“Thank you for this article. A regular piece on the issues men face would be very welcome. As a former high school soccer coach of high school boys and girls, I always thought boys and girls were more alike than different. But the statistics you recite are astounding. A few more: Men are 3 to 4 times more likely to commit suicide, Women live 5 years longer than men, Men are almost 3 times more likely suffer from homelessness, Men constitute 95% of the prison population; the list goes on. I don’t know why, but certainly the “toxic masculinity” narrative, devaluation of physical labor that many men do and the other issues cited in this article all contribute. I read many of the comments and I’m saddened by the anti-male, misandry many demonstrate. We have a serious problem with young men in the United States, let’s honestly address it.”
“As a former high school soccer coach of high school boys and girls, I always thought boys and girls were more alike than different. “ They always have been, I promise you.
Please stop telling us we're toxic. I don't understand why highly educated people who are so sensitive about language that they freak out about pronouns cannot see the negative impact that constantly saying "toxic masculinity" has on boys and young men.
Please stop telling us we're toxic. I don't understand why highly educated people who are so sensitive about language that they freak out about pronouns cannot see the negative impact that constantly saying "toxic masculinity" has on boys and young men.
I’m of the opinion that all of this constant gendered discussion about boys falling behind, and myriad articles jam-packed with statistics and charts to back it up, are part of the problem. Life is difficult, and all young people struggle. And they do seem to be struggling more with their mental health and adjustment these days. I won’t argue with that. But it is across the board. Boys are struggling. Girls are struggling. And gender nonconforming youth are struggling, to name a few demographics. By obsessing about gender differences, we only reinforce them for our children. There is no reason why a boy needs to grow up with different values than a girl. Wear different clothes. Have different hobbies. Girls play video games. Men make clothes. Girls can be awful to each other and to boys. Boys can be the same to each other and to them. If we stop talking so much about gender expectations, maybe kids can just live their lives without the pressure to measure up. The difference is here: Girls have historically struggled simply BECAUSE they were girls and discriminated against. Are boys struggling BECAUSE they are boys? I don’t think so. They aren’t struggling due to their maleness. Our society is still set up to reward men more than women for the same tasks. So boys may be struggling, but I don’t think it’s unique to them. I don’t think they are struggling because they were born male. It’s because our society obsesses about gender differences, creating unnatural expectations
I’m going to go out on a limb here and say one of the factors might be less men in education. I’m talking men who do men things like Tim Walz. Hunting, fishing, sports. When I started teaching in 1973 there was push to get more men in education, especially elementary, so it wasn’t seen as girly. That died with the salaries. There is more money elsewhere. I had one boy who was almost failing and hated school. He told me didn’t like reading much until I introduced him to books about dogs and hunting. Then magically a pile of library books appeared on his desk. He was on the honor roll his last marking period in my class. His dad, our janitor, said I saved him. Today he has land where he hunts, which he loves, a nice house good job and a family. I would play football with the kids at recess, even when it wasn’t my duty day. I had one boy who loved that and went on to star in high school. He said I made him a man. I’m not so sure about but the sentiments were nice. M I had another boy who came from a single mother family. The mother was very nice, loved her kids, but was stuck. She was a crossing guard. He went in the Army. He came back to see me in his uniform and I was so honored I could have cried. I felt like I should salute him. Boys need role models that reflect boy things sports, fishing hunting if that is the local culture, cars, what ever boys are interested in. They don’t need role models that are more metrosexual for lack of a better world. My opinion.
@Linda Cameron I find your response to this article somewhat disturbing. No one is blaming the girls for this outcome, and this is not a zero sum game. A generation of boys and young men is languishing and in need of help, and your immediate response is to say, "don't blame the girls!" which, again, is missing the point entirely in my opinion. This is not about assigning blame, it's about creating constructive solutions.
“It’s Not Just a Feeling: Data Shows Boys and Young Men Are Falling Behind” — according to what standard?
The issue with this notion is we selectively choose what areas women are excelling in, notice men aren’t doing that: then decide men are falling behind while ignoring the areas women are lacking in.
So instead of stating men & women are counterbalancing each other economically, it’s about someone being behind.
Or women burn themselves out trying live up to feminisms modern rigid norm of women essentially being a social, professional & emotional jack of all trades; without equipping them with the common sense to gauge their own output or slow the hell down. --
Hence why it’s not being in relationships with men that’s burning women out, because as women are becoming more single, childless, adhering to feminisms rigid norms and single women still suffer burnout.
So "burnout" has less to do with men and more to do with women's stamina threshold as adults, and what women are doing to be "ahead" & academia is now telling us men are falling behind a failing model that's draining women in the first place.
A narrative that sought to address or sensationalize men's decline is actually illustrating women's overarching issues, the truth is funny like that.
Basically women living a parody of what we thought being a man was about: Career worship vs having a purpose to serve, which is the essence of being a man, having a stake.
A man without purpose or stake is a man who takes his own life, that is what Matheson’s “The Incredible Shrinking Man” was about. Not the bullshit term “toxic masculinity” or fragile masculinity or any of these antagonistic “[insert scrabble word]-masculinity” bingo games:
It was & is about a man’s existential horror: purpose, utility & his stake being progressively removed and violated.
While the main enemy was his own self-imposed paranoia & he did things in response to that panic that wasn’t right, such as misplaced anger to his wife (which plenty boys do in the form of frustration with how society works against males in favor of women which bleeds into manifesting into misogyny), yet the existential reality of Scott was very real, and his panic was 100% valid — that he was indeed becoming irrelevant by force. But he was still relevant & a person to Louise.
The situation was not his fault but he also was becoming something greater than any human, he just didn’t know it.
His transition could’ve been smoother for him and everyone involved if he ignored what the situation (society) entailed, and kept his traditional masculinity stubbornly during the change, worked out, sought to be emotional support for Louise, supported her desire to work instead of denying that for her because of how it made him feel.
Instead of panicking because he had to give up some control or feeling change meant abandoning the trad formula (Modern First world society), though his panic was 100% justified. His fear or conforming to the progress of his regression created confusion & loss of what even is masculinity. The existential horror of uncertainty and loss of stake & purpose. That is what the story is about.
In this context, men do not have to suffer like Scott, but society has to play it’s part in not turning men into the bitter Scott Casey of the story and let men know as early as possible that
“Women don’t need to be dependent on you to still need you.”
"Men are not just a paycheck for women. Provision can be something as simple as a shoulder to cry on or fixing something, or repair, or childcare. Provision is not money, it is positive contribution of any kind"
“Men have a stake.”
“If men are retreating to figure things out, give them space. If they’re running away, what can we do to resuscitate their want to engage with society as we know it. What are they running away from?”
The solution is protecting men from lack of stake: society giving a fuck. So men aren’t retreating and regressing to protect themselves from society’s constant attacks.
“If society spent 40 years telling men their traditional roles were “toxic” or “obsolete,” it cannot be surprised when men stop investing in that society.”
That consideration gives agency, control to males, & puts the ball in their court-- the right way. This isn't about coddling men, this is about society having that fine line of communication that has to exist to reach men vs men just absorbing narrative after narrative after narrative after narrative from people ‘-splaining’ to men what is wrong with men.
And men’s voices get drowned out by dismissal, vile comment sections from deflectors, which only enables them further into regression and even hatred of women & society.
So o we call “trad” rigid, but new modern feminist norms are siphoning women of their very lifeforce or the will to even start a family or maintain a relationship without running away; because modern norms are also rigid & inflexible but with extra pressures no one wants to address.
Because that is also a rigidity, despite the fact that it’s slowly killing your birthrates, thus killing your civilization. Which traditional ways did not do.
And now we’re telling men them not burning themselves out like women do (not all women, but enough women to it's become headlines & personal testimony, so apparently feminism isn't treating women ideally. So what business do they have telling men how to behave? And when men listen anyway, women see them as burdens.)
Or not matching what women choose to do (sometimes at their own detriment)- is men falling behind.
You can’t have both.
You can’t complain that societal pressure on women is hurting women then in the same breath claim men are falling behind because men aren’t doing what’s burning women out.
You can’t have both.
Or the implication that women’s success & not being handicapped like in the past is somehow a cause of men’s alleged falling behind.
The gap closed is the presumption, which makes zero sense because men still do all the heavy labor jobs that keeps your country’s lights on. But is academia going to lean harder into that we can finally have a nuanced grasp on the matter? Of course not.
So what this is really about is society majorly considers soft-skill economy professions as measures of success but ignore the harder-skill /trade categories women are falling behind on.
So focus on a category, point out men don't do it. Then say men are falling behind, and because we're academia, you should just take our word for it because credentials over common sense.
And if I were to be generous: closing "the gap" between men and women isn’t women exceeding men, it’s women making their own decisions as women do as the majority of the species, of course the numbers will show a disparity.
And when they get burnt out, then It’s women doing too much.
Again, why are we telling men they’re falling behind regarding a formula that’s ripping women apart- as we learn in other articles.
Pick a lane, stick to a narrative. Stop making men feel like aliens in their own country because their decisions don't emulate how women live their lives.
I've seen this premise that women succeed or surpassing because they’re not held back anymore or some bullshit, flattering narrative.
And then in the next breath women are burnt out & opting out (aka running away/giving up) because too much is put on them, which some can argue is an adult skill issue. Fragility even, and it's not women's fault they aren't trained to manage their lives better.
Why do belabor this point? Because it’s 1000% relevant. It’s hypocrisy.
It’s always a favorable narrative that’s spared for the ladies. Pioneers today, grasping the stars while men are playing in dirt; yet women are victims of pressure tomorrow.
It is never on women when things in the lives of women go wrong, always someone or something else.
🚨With that attitude, you will never cultivate the best leaders you could possibly have: And more importantly— Cultivate proper mothers that choose more responsibly who she grants access to ther body, qualify wife and partner. You will never crack the code or possess the best options on the planet IF NOTHING IS EVER THEIR FAULT.
Men? If they don’t perform, if they don’t manage or match some standard of success academia decided is universal for everyone- then we presume men are falling behind the new modern rigid norms that’s blanketed in a societal paradigm of female burnout and male suicide and male & female loneliness.
And now if they’re not going to college just for the sake of it, even that is falling behind.
Never mind the fact they’re still building everything despite women being the majority of the species, so why is the minority doing all the harder labor, well paid, but somehow men are framed as falling behind?
College for example is red flag #1 for me with that “falling behind” narrative, we’re trying to hold men to the standard women choose to live & die by; as if college is a measure of success.
Men not going to college is not men falling behind.
Who’s still building everything in society? If it’s not women, why is that not women falling behind in some metric?
Why is that not a doompost that women are the majority of your species #Empowerment #Girlpower #GirlBoss and yet men are still doing the heavier load of the work as the minority? That’s not bad optics?
Is physical labor the only labor that exists? No, but neither is the soft-skill categories western society selectively highlights that’s female dominated that you pretend are the only measures of success so that we can say men are falling behind in.
And even something like child raising is not so invisible itself when people being productive members is the visibility. So women being convinced their labor is invisible- are just too damn impressionable to be convinced by someone somewhere that women have to be bitter over something this week. Westerners are too damn negative and women are too easy lead astray: But only if they’re convinced someone’s out to get them.
Women need to exercise more agency against the people preaching to them the power of agency. Paradoxically.
You can read this right now because some dude somewhere went to work that week & kept the power grid up for another 24 hours. Or built the building you walk into without a second thought, you just know the building is there when you drive or walk there. All these things in society didn't just appear lol & gender studies master degree didn't build it.
That’s not pathetic or a bad look on women?
See, we’re too selective about this tone we have with males, that’s my point here.
Soft-skill fields women fill up are not the only sections of society that civilization needs, so stop pretending what women excel at are the only positions that matter. Because when society does that to mothers, I repeat that's "Invisible Labor", but the same woe is me energy isn't spared for those boys on those oil rigs or construction sites.
Stop gaslighting.
I’m not one of those people that believes that everything has to be 50:50 ratio at all times, everyday, every second, score-boarding. Because if nature worked like that we'd have two suns, and no moon.
Nature is not 50:50, it counterbalances. Humans are the only idiots in the universe that enforce the former, and it doesn't work.
So the reason why mankeeping is nonsensical as a concept, is also why I don’t hold it against women for not carrying their weight in fields they can afford to ignore, or claim it's because the hiring process is not welcoming, no efforts to recruit women, any and every scapegoat & excuse to avoid admitting women don't want to work on a scaffold 100ft feet in the air; and that's women's choice, not the fault of "system".
Despite the numbers women possess to carry their weight in said fields; despite their everyday lives depending on someone’s son doing the work. Women choose not to help, because they simply do not want to, and that's fine.
You won’t see VICE or Buzzfeed bring that shit up, I promise you that.
If women are behind, it’s about systemic barring, a boogeyman, a ceiling; if it’s men, then it’s a performative issue. It’s only a problem of personal responsibility if men are the subject of debate.
[Sidenote: This is why the quality of woman specifically has tanked in America/ & parallel western countries, it's like you want your women to maintain a false sense of security, so certain sects can always have the power to control their worldview, but it only works if they're independent of men and dependent on the headline of the week.
*Take that with a grain of salt, but it's just a thought. Because If I wanted to sabotage women or men on purpose, making them think they're always in the right even when wrong; I tell them on their side, isolation is independence, loneliness is the price of being educated because men are just intimidated. Meanwhile I sit back and watch both sides suffer & burn. That's some supervillain shit, and it's genius sociological warfare. Again --- Take that specific tangent with a grain of salt.*]
🚨DISCLAIMER: This isn’t about women. These are examples to map out just how helpful this tone and attitude is whenever men happen to be the unlucky ones to be the topic of discussion. Cause Despite how much men do, always seems it’s never enough.
TL;DR Again, If men are still the one’s building your bridges, cities, literally everything and maintaining it still. Men aren’t falling behind, they’re not living their lives like women — - *EGAD said the crowd.
Women are simply filling the gaps men are opting out or never felt led to pursue in the first place, or a shift happened, and there’s nothing wrong with that; that’s literally women complimenting what men don’t want to do.
Why is that considered falling behind?
Just like most women don’t want to work on oil rigs, cut off from the mainland for weeks on end. But plenty of men will do it.
Why isn’t that considered women falling behind?
Again, statistically women should be excelling numerically — because no matter what — women outnumber men anyway.
By metrics they should always be ahead, but it doesn’t mean they’re doing better, nor is it a competition — which is the undertone of “falling behind”. Women being in a good place isn’t men losing or falling behind.
This competitivity fetish Americans have is why women burn themselves out recklessly trying to match an energy men never possessed as cartoonishly and men retreat & run away to fetishisms to replace the role women should have in their conscious lives because access to women is not worth it anymore or too dangerous.
If women’s engagement with enrollment ceased, that would be spun as women walking away from it, a narrative of agency.
If men don’t enroll, they’re falling behind.
And thus, a lot of this has more to do with perception than reality, how these agents spin the narrative.
✅Mental health, suicide, violent crime rates & likeminded valid concerns are another matter worth talking about which is more relevant to parenting.✅Butone way you can help:
is stop assaulting boys with narratives that they’re “falling behind”, show some respect and an ounce of self-awareness or consideration. You want men to open up but we display zero sensitivity as if they have any feelings.
I’m not asking we lie to people, but haven’t you been smothering men with essentially “Do better” for damn near 30–40 years now?
And has it ever worked?
When is enough enough?
When has driving the blade deeper EVER driven any group of people to give it their all and do better for themselves and others? Would that treatment work for women?
Why is it that empowerment is preconceived to be a default reality for men when every other word out of society’s mouth to men is negative, demeaning, derailment, disrespect, victim blaming, dismissal, complete erasure of their concerns or issues.
And majority of death gaps are male dominated, the media does not care — and despite that, you somehow think “toxic masculinity” is why men commit suicide and not America’s/West world’s comfortable indifference, dehumanization, and neglect with malekind isn't the reason. Men aren't a headline, UNLESS they do something wrong.
Are men really born groomed to expect success? Or are you holding onto a notion that’s almost 80 years dead?
Or is the definition of success whatever category women are excelling in that decade?
Labels like “toxic masculinity” — when bad behavior is NOT gendered, nor are the socializations boys used to be conditioned with yet suicide & violence remains on both sides, almost as if instability is part of the human condition more relevant to parenting and individual social disability than masculinity boogeyman. Hm, gee golly.
Men are more emotional & open than ever, so much so that “Mankeeping” became a thing because men listened to society and opened their mouths & shared. Now the goalpost move is lack of reciprocation, but what women haven't been reciprocating for generations ? Let's ignore that part. The fact that lesbians also suffer emotional/social burnouts proves it's not a problem unique to men, as usual, women are doing too much-- but the narrative is spun to make as if men are the problem.
And you don't think that devoted campaign to attack attack attack men has less to do with male suicide & male disengagement with society than "scapegoat masculinity", oops excuse me "Toxic masculinity".
Interesting logic there, I suppose if a spouse calls their partner a failure everyday, the victim should be grateful for the attention huh?
Instead of perpetual doom-posting, instead (as the authorities, as the people with platform, including myself) provide SOLUTIONS to the matter with the address. That is- if your agenda was actually helping, which often- it’s not.
Provide men not with an ultimatum, not an attack, not an address to men and boys to remind them yet again how inept they are: Help these people as if they’re worth protecting — as human beings.
As we help women and girls; also help men and boys as if they’re worth protecting too. If you first worlders can manage to stomach such a reality.
because just the way most of us peak, it’s lack the humanity of “protect” in the tone, I don’t even have to hear your voices, I can smell it in the digital text and the people in comment sections ready to blame men shows even further how deep this evil has gotten.
Even the people trying to help, they also lack that active undertone sometimes. Sometimes you can help just by formulating the title more responsibly.
🚨There’s a difference between men failing or falling behind because they’re not living up to Men’s / their own potential by their standards, interest, patterns of proclivity and according the interests of males vs you/us— gaslighting men that they’re falling behind because they’re not living their lives, not behaving, not walking, not expressing their emotions in therapy — like women.🚨I can’t make that any clearer.
Cutting that shit out BOTH WAYS would help massively; because of a lot of what superwoman syndrome has become is just women burning themselves out living up feminisms expectations of what they thought patriarchal career culture was, aka a parody.
If you’re going to finger wag, extend a hand with it.
Fact is, men still carry society in ways A.I no time soon will be able to supplant, nor women are planning to contribute to in ways that will matter statistically.
Power lines, sewer systems, cell towers, grids, your cities, elevator techs, etc. etc. fields & careers I don’t even know about yet, all that can exist because of men.
All maintained regardless of women — BECAUSE of men. Highlight that more sometime.👍Because it’s not headcanon, it’s reality.
Encourage men with feats men do majorly as is and have been doing. Boost them up, empower. Why are you people so eager or so excited to tell boys it’s their own fault why they’re demoralized when you’re the one’s with control over their reality — your negligence is why boys often retreat to harmful narratives that warp their worldviews regarding women. They wouldn’t need to compensate in that way, if they weren’t running away from you in the first place.
Some people in the comments of certain articles surmise instead of society accommodating to women as usual; instead they claim women adapted “as we always do”, which is a cute stance but the women that did work are in history books already. Not much else to adapt to when you can already end a man’s professional life with a lie with no consequences, it’s anyone who isn’t a woman that has to adapt and duck & cover; which is why men opt out & give on dealing with women.
Identity politics rules society, and women are in the top 3 of privilege. This “we — adapt” notion is 40+ years late. Everyone adapts to hardship, women are not special in that regard, certainly not in first world society.
Despite DEI and hiring processes going out of their way to skip over more qualified members (male or female or white) for various identity boxes. (because women can get skipped over for a POC that is male for example).
A would be Firefighter has testified this on record, and he’s right:
Women have did their share of adapting then, but they’re not the women of your generation. These are silver spooned crop trying to own feats of endurance that doesn’t belong to them #1
And #2 while living in a generation of women crying “burn out” but also claiming adaptation: make that make sense.
Just being a woman doesn’t mean you have the strength of stronger women before you, it doesn’t mean you’re strong by extension of being female, it means you benefitted from the strength of stronger women who had to adapt the reality they lived so you don’t have to (as much) while living in yours.
Perform your own feats, don’t hijack theirs. I’d hold myself accountable as well for all the times I’ve said “we” when mentioning tradesmen males — being a hijack of their work on my: But the plot twist is I’ve worked trade jobs, so in that regard I get a pass because I fit the mold.
If the women claiming such things fit the mold as well too, well then they’re the real ones. But I find a lot of us are making claims online thinking being born a sex is like being part of a special club or The Avatar State where the members before us — by extension their feats are ours to claim as our own or something. Ridiculous.
Great women before me? I’d just as soon take pride in their accomplishments as my own as I would a man’s, because I am human before I am a male or female human.
That’s how I evolved beyond this “vs” bullshit: the attitude. Better for mental & social health as well.
Westerners and Americans need to diminish the doom, increase positive reinforcement of feats men still do and have been doing.
Yes, I belabored that point again because it’s true. Men have been here on business, Women were let out the cages, they caught up and men are still carrying some fields alone while women dominate others.
It’s called a counterbalance, not “competition.”
Now let me make this clear so that I’m not repeating what other articles do:
🚨NO — that’s not indicative of women falling behind or failing or getting carried. #1
🚨#2 It means women live differently from men, whilst not being that much different from men.
🚨#3 the sexes are not from different planets. Boys & girls don’t think the same way but they are not different, they compliment the other.
You can 1000% moralize & encourage engagement by just curbing the one-sided “do better” “failing” “toxic” talking points.
Women experience failure — -> it’s the system or men’s fault.
Men experience failure — -> it’s patriarchy’s fault making them into incorrect models of maleness, or it’s the internet’s fault for spreading bad messages. It’s masculinity’s fault or a bad version of masculinity’s fault, thus it’s men’s fault, patriarchy’s fault. Something vaguely male is failing men even though the decline is accelerating when they take gynocentric modernity’s advice. A flaw of men in some way, personal accountability.
You can’t have that air in your chests when your everyday privilege is because of Father Patriarchy, I’ve yet to see a Matriarchy get this far, let alone make an America.
So maybe cut the bullshit and wake up. Or keep doing what you been doing and see how low you can get those birthrates by 2030, cause if you’re going divebomb, have fun with it, right?
You should be grateful & be thanking whatever you pray to (even if your god is your next paycheck) that men do stagnate, that’s called “consistency”.
Change isn’t always a good thing, changing something that functioned, even if outdated is part of why you’re declining. You patched your software to an updated build, but it’s glitch, unreliable, and your civilization is caving in. Patriarchy didn’t do that, dismantling it is what fucked you.
Changing something outdated but functional for something inclusive, egalitarian, inflexible but more acceptable but you’re declining anyway. Maybe it wasn’t a good idea. Disagree? Then why aren’t you winning?
The outcome is the data, and even then, don’t always believe statistics, because people can lie about statistical realities to control how you see your reality which can then in prophetic fashion fulfill the statistical downfall you were shown.
I’m not saying adopt conspiracy, but just keep an open mind — both ways.
You keep seeing decline because “failing” “falling behind” “toxic masculinity”, gaslighting & disrespect is all males see. And then the alternative they hunt down is fetishism, positive reinforcement from blatant exercises of misogyny, overindulgence, regression, etc.
Men make their own damn decisions, but society has it’s role in pushing men into that destructive world through sheer neglect.
Devolving them into a shell of themselves & women are left with nothing, because men bring something better than money: “Counterbalance” “Male perspective”
Society, not patriarchy, but modern/defanged/ feminized SOCIETY aka everyone involved from media to education as it is & has been these past 30 years has more blame to shoulder than anything & anyone.
Men are not things to complain to, chastise & then they’ll wake up the next day and make life better for everyone because we finally got rid of the patriarchy; and everyone became friends & equity reigned supreme, then First world society became TYPE-III Civilization in 50 years record time because that dastardly patriarchy got out the way and a woman became president. bla bla bla —
that’s not how it works.
Treat men like people, not underperforming robots. The tone you address women with ? With care, humanity, understanding, empathy, leeway, good faith?— keep that energy for men.
And the crazy thing is, the author of the article (namesake of the title) was actually not a prick about it; I can tell just from her tone in the comments that she tried to be fair. Props to her. The issue still remains that pointing out that “problem” exists is not a solution, I’ve been guilty of that myself, it’s a horrible habit people engage in.
✅The falling behind we perceive with men & what we see women aren’t doing compared to men: Is called a counterbalance. Boys & girls think on unique spectrums, physically complimentary, but are not that different to treat as two separate factions, not even close to being that serious.
Otherwise a solution needs to be attached to the valid addresses that need change and the regular trademark western doom posts.
Stop reinforcing that men have to be women in order succeed when not only men are carrying more than their share of the weight, but women themselves are barely hanging on by the formula modernity’s feminism handed them to begin with.
Why would men in their right mind want to catch up with women when they’re “ahead” but a hair’s breadth from atrophy because most of them are proverbial walking husks.
More Justice to this supposed arc than Horikoshi or Bones EVER did.
And the crazy part is while class 1A we're at school sitting on their thumbs, our boy was out here putting in work actually saving lives, which is what truly shows how fraudulent that school in the entire system is.
He should have never went back in the first place. because if he never left the school, the people he saved BECAUSE he left, would have died.
Holed up in that school accomplishes nothing, you can be independent and take care of yourself--- the narrative needed to ignore that and make Deku into a dependent blob with zero agency just to drag him back to that school. Been said it, will KEEP saying it.
Idgaf, but on a positive note, this video is exactly my point & kudos to the artist(s). That Spider-Man easter egg is appreciated.
Giving Hobie's little backstory in the middle of the Spot situation was so messy and the tension with Miguel meeting miles then Peter B. shows up and derails the momentum completely. Noticing a lot of disjointed tones, like the scenes can't pick a vibe and commit to it, ADHD levels of whiplash.
The one scene that did it perfectly was Prowler Miles scene, consistently narrative focus, no break neck distractions hitting you at the speed of light, excellent slow burn direction, but ofc that was the end of the movie.
Like we had Miles trying to open the barrier, Spot is cooking, then Hobie shows up and now everyone's catching up all casual like they're not in the middle of something dire and it's not well written to where it organically blends into the situation or it's like brief enough to where the current crisis doesn't have to damn near pauses just for the side-bar to happen, it's so bizarre how sloppy some of the scene pacing decisions are. If that was intentional, it worked for Miles just fine in the first Spot fight, poor choice longterm.
there will always be the preconception that men are just things to dehumanize on whim to some women, hell to men too, because "As a woman, I am by default the only party that matters in the situation; and I know the power I possess 1000% because society handles my sex as if we're the only ones in society that matter."
This is why Tylil was smart to say real "victims", instead of "women assaulted", because women are not the only victims of SA on Planet Earth. Men charged majority of the violent crimes, & women get the brunt, but they aren't the only one's.
So much of this specific context stems from women knowing how much they can abuse men until they're finally proven wrong or if they're ever proven wrong, until then he's at her mercy.
Believe no women, believe the truth.
Women are not the truth, women don't own the truth. WOMEN ARE NOT THE TRUTH. Women DO NOT OWN the truth--- one more time, repeat after me: "WOMEN ARE NOT THE TRUTH", so stop believing "all" women.
This notion that women own the truth is exactly why this happens, your natural instinct to protect women has corroded into yet another form of woman worship that's made women the worst interest for men & sometimes even other women.
Believe the truth. Women shouldn't have to look over their shoulder when walking down the street, Men shouldn't have to record their post-intimate moments just to protect themselves.
Women have too much damn power to still cosplay as oppressed in first world countries, it's sickening how unattractive that spoiled daughter syndrome is & it's normal to you people's culture, because if it weren't this wouldn't happen this much; you'd have more women with integrity, this chic really said she hates men because of something that never happened.
Men being subhuman compared to women's best interest as a narrative needs to stop, cease, and go away. Until then, this will continue.
Until you people treat your males as if they're human beings as women are, both sides treated with a stake in society, and are loved & honored vs males existing side characters in the lives of women and what women say dictates what happens or what happened in the lives of men--- this will continue.
A woman's word can make or break anyone at anytime, I've seen & know that have seen women weaponize their being women to avoid being fired when they should have been, so it's really like they're a class citizen ABOVE first class. That's like ....Monarchy levels of power. That's acceptable to you?
A good movement began to end unacceptable suffrage & social issues, now it's out of control & causing equally unacceptable social issues.
*Women do this for the same reason a predator will SA prey on a victim----"the sport of playing with someone's destiny."*
Same exact ugliness.
Otherwise, a lot of this boils down to the kind of women you're associating with in the first place.
As is the usual disclaimer, & as Ty as stated with grace: it makes it difficult for real victims to come out and it's a bad look for women in particular. If men weren't demoralized to approach or engage with women before, stuff like this makes it leagues worse.
Slow down, know who you're dealing with. A lot of these women making these false claims sometimes are clearly low quality by sight or just how they carry themselves.
Stop having fun and actually invest in these girls & maybe save your life.
Invest in women properly, slow the hell down, and you'll more than likely get a thorough read as to who or what you're dealing with BEFORE anything happens.
Ending up with the right woman who happens to be tall is one thing, vs seeking out tall women specifically are two different things.
* The only good reason to maybe prefer a slightly taller chic on purpose as a deadass dating standard (within reason) is fertility but the one's with that reason are like less than 0.1% & usually don’t feel the need to broadcast it vs the compensation camp because if it begins that superficial & creepy, it won't last because guys of that proclivity (not always) but usually are 99% compensating for something through her height.
women are not here to coddle small dicc energy-- needing her scale to make up for what the male refuses to be: A fixed point. A man. Security, something she ain't getting back. 😂
* Just look at the face 2:40 if he legit got a woman like that she wouldn't be in a relationship with a man, she'd be babysitting, his motivations for even being with her wouldn't sustain the relationship. Too superficial.
Realistically, a male with this ‘tall/giantmommy’ mindset --what could one possibly do to make her feel safe when his first concern is how her height, not what she offers, not her agency, but how her height makes him feel-
which sounds more female in sentiment than male. Which actually explains a lot: Because the whole ‘giant woman’ meta always did come off a bit effeminate, it definitely tracks with this modern trend among weak bred getting more bold on the internet..
* Cause on everything 😂3:39 looks like a mother & son walking down the street lmfao, she does all the talking, & he's just there, passive. The Ai made them look so uncomfortable with each other too, sheesh. Like she’s holding him hostage.
And it's not even a 5 inch difference or a foot & some change, bro's NECK & head is cocked back because she's a literal light post, like gaaahdamn. 2:38
Wolverine from Marvel is like 5′3 in canon and he’s basically if masculinity was a superhero: pure aura, a good man. And frankly: short kings do exist- without the cringe.
But the majority of dudes with this particular compensation tick (if we’re really being honest) the fixation on height comes into play to compensate for exactly what they don’t have--- PRESENCE, when you’re tall, you don’t always have presence but you stand out.
So Tall/giant women bros want the woman to have the presence he doesn’t have and through that height inequity will provide a security for him that he won’t give back to her.
So really it’s projection as well as regression, because what he isn’t--- he wants to see in her. Wanting someone to cast a shadow he can hide & retreat into, or a skirt to hide behind lmfao.
When that superficial standard is unnecessary, a woman’s natural maternal warmth even when she’s tough as nails-- is the default security a man naturally craves to regress into with women (functional regression, not toxic or obsessive or fanatic or fetishistic regression-- FUNCTIONAL regression) and men already finds safety & vulnerability in that since antiquity : But it’s HEALTHY. That’s the security & strength your mother/mother figure provided (given she did her job properly), it wasn’t her size, it was her emotional availability.
"I like tall women" yea because her height gives you the security you ain't gonna provide her in return 😂 100% Keeping.
We didn’t have to call masculinity “toxic” just to coach men to be healthier in masculinity, because now you’re just losing men with any masculinity altogether and it’s manifesting in the crap they put on the internet.
I’ve got my heat with double standards on women’s part, but dating for too many women in the west is just a game of 'Rent-A Boy' now.
