/re "Snob vs Virtue Signaling: The value of Relationships (compilation)" | Egalitarianism, like Matriarchy- doesn't work, not on it's own.

 

If you get into a relationship to be an adult, you're going into it as baggage. Example: To be wise(er) you have to bring wisdom to her life in the first place; to expect reciprocation from him, tally up how often you do exactly that before expecting it from him.

These days a lot ppl are actually grownup enough professionally to try, but but too self-absorbed, intimidated by gender roles & expectation, way too fragile in the face of inconvenience and waaaaay too hyper "independent" focused to remain in a relationship or alternatively: be a proper partner to go the distance; which involves interdependence, not independence.

these days it's the complete opposite, most ppl are grownup enough professionally, degrees out the ass. But too self-absorbed, intimidated by expectation, gender roles & too fragile in the face of inconvenience and waaaaay too hyper "independent" focused to even be a proper partner; which involves interdependence, not independence. Which is basically any functioning family or community. The very thing that helps make a relationship work (interdependence), people are taught "independence" aka hyper-isolationism (specifically first world women) which maps out perfectly why too many people claim alleged "loneliness" or being "burdened" when in reality they were groomed to be single & alone and thus have zero stamina for another person's needs, thus by extension incompatible with a relationship:

good luck finding someone with no needs and doesn't inconvenience you ever. So some see relationships as a status statement (which is natural, because that's how community's use pressure to keep people within a boundary to perform, but it can push people away if the pressure isn't benevolent. If there's no pressure, people end up aimless, which is partly how people end up lonely. Pressure is inconvenient, but it has a purpose.

• Think about it: If there's no pressure to meet a standard in any video game you play, why play any video game if pressure alone is always a bad thing? No pressure is more likely to make someone give up, because what's the reward if there's no standard or role to play the game by? And if the risk outweighs the reward, why try?)

Some can manage to maintain relationships still, have kids, all amidst the sociological, economic chaos; but apparently not enough do so to represent a formula of success because the closest to it (while flawed, it worked) was abolished & now a lot of ppl don't know how to get started and or just give up before they get started because of horror stories. The others are straight up taught by their culture not to be compatible with a relationship & then mask that as "agency". Some people are built to where they don't see being single as a void, but most people rightfully are legit social creatures in the desire for a perceived intimate missing piece. But for too many, to try is a gamble because the "norm" where everyone understood what it was, was dismantled. Now the norm is equitable uncertainty.

• *Just as subjective as a lot of Anime fan criteria of what's "good" anymore. Very egalitarian, very equitable, up to interpretation, no concrete system; unstable, unreliable, no pressures yet no consistency, no point. The result? Low quality options because norms, standards and rigidity became a threat--
• yet people live rigid by their own habits & expectations everyday.
• So therefore the excuse to abandon the trad ways was a bullshit gaslight. If the habit or expectation you have in question is not trad but consistent? Congratz, that's a rigid norm. Be very afraid, norms are the work of the devil, ooOOooh. And if your norm pressures someone else to perform or else there's consequence of you not liking them? Or judging them for not meeting criteria? Or you actively cut them off or criticize the partner or even resent them for falling short or them being neglectful? Congratulations, you're now oppressing someone under said norm.
• Thanks for playing.
• But remember, traditional norms are bad because rigidity & oppression. Simply Ignore that they work & cling to the new equally rigid system that clearly doesn't work.*

(which is why egalitarianism, like matriarchy are not legitimate as systems in the same way as the nuclear trad/patriarchal system is in how it builds. The formers are connective patchworks to fit under the traditional).

Not cause they're new, but because they have no structure. You'll find more empires built on meritocracy, utility, & trad values (patriarchal) than equity, subjectivity, & egalitarianism (matriarchal). Not an accident.

(upload version in case the url goes offline, channel taken down later on, hopefully not)

Making everything subjective is why it's so difficult to achieve a working formula, and "progress" is the red herring 'experts' use to avoid saying "We made a mistake".

It's a sick joke.

excellent video, as the social decline increases, it'll only become more relevant, unfortunately.