/re "Snob vs Virtue Signaling: The value of Relationships (compilation)" | Egalitarianism, like Matriarchy- doesn't work, not on it's own.

 

If you get into a relationship to be an adult, you're going into it as baggage. Example: To be wise(er) you have to bring wisdom to her life in the first place; to expect reciprocation from him, tally up how often you do exactly that before expecting it from him.

These days a lot ppl are actually grownup enough professionally to try, but but too self-absorbed, intimidated by gender roles & expectation, way too fragile in the face of inconvenience and waaaaay too hyper "independent" focused to remain in a relationship or alternatively: be a proper partner to go the distance; which involves interdependence, not independence.

these days it's the complete opposite, most ppl are grownup enough professionally, degrees out the ass. But too self-absorbed, intimidated by expectation, gender roles & too fragile in the face of inconvenience and waaaaay too hyper "independent" focused to even be a proper partner; which involves interdependence, not independence. Which is basically any functioning family or community. The very thing that helps make a relationship work (interdependence), people are taught "independence" aka hyper-isolationism (specifically first world women) which maps out perfectly why too many people claim alleged "loneliness" or being "burdened" when in reality they were groomed to be single & alone and thus have zero stamina for another person's needs, thus by extension incompatible with a relationship:

good luck finding someone with no needs and doesn't inconvenience you ever. So some see relationships as a status statement (which is natural, because that's how community's use pressure to keep people within a boundary to perform, but it can push people away if the pressure isn't benevolent. If there's no pressure, people end up aimless, which is partly how people end up lonely. Pressure is inconvenient, but it has a purpose.

• Think about it: If there's no pressure to meet a standard in any video game you play, why play any video game if pressure alone is always a bad thing? No pressure is more likely to make someone give up, because what's the reward if there's no standard or role to play the game by? And if the risk outweighs the reward, why try?)

Some can manage to maintain relationships still, have kids, all amidst the sociological, economic chaos; but apparently not enough do so to represent a formula of success because the closest to it (while flawed, it worked) was abolished & now a lot of ppl don't know how to get started and or just give up before they get started because of horror stories. The others are straight up taught by their culture not to be compatible with a relationship & then mask that as "agency". Some people are built to where they don't see being single as a void, but most people rightfully are legit social creatures in the desire for a perceived intimate missing piece. But for too many, to try is a gamble because the "norm" where everyone understood what it was, was dismantled. Now the norm is equitable uncertainty.

• *Just as subjective as a lot of Anime fan criteria of what's "good" anymore. Very egalitarian, very equitable, up to interpretation, no concrete system; unstable, unreliable, no pressures yet no consistency, no point. The result? Low quality options because norms, standards and rigidity became a threat--
• yet people live rigid by their own habits & expectations everyday.
• So therefore the excuse to abandon the trad ways was a bullshit gaslight. If the habit or expectation you have in question is not trad but consistent? Congratz, that's a rigid norm. Be very afraid, norms are the work of the devil, ooOOooh. And if your norm pressures someone else to perform or else there's consequence of you not liking them? Or judging them for not meeting criteria? Or you actively cut them off or criticize the partner or even resent them for falling short or them being neglectful? Congratulations, you're now oppressing someone under said norm.
• Thanks for playing.
• But remember, traditional norms are bad because rigidity & oppression. Simply Ignore that they work & cling to the new equally rigid system that clearly doesn't work.*

(which is why egalitarianism, like matriarchy are not legitimate as systems in the same way as the nuclear trad/patriarchal system is in how it builds. The formers are connective patchworks to fit under the traditional).

Not cause they're new, but because they have no structure. You'll find more empires built on meritocracy, utility, & trad values (patriarchal) than equity, subjectivity, & egalitarianism (matriarchal). Not an accident.

(upload version in case the url goes offline, channel taken down later on, hopefully not)

Making everything subjective is why it's so difficult to achieve a working formula, and "progress" is the red herring 'experts' use to avoid saying "We made a mistake".

It's a sick joke.

excellent video, as the social decline increases, it'll only become more relevant, unfortunately.

/re Black Women Think They are So Smart | Women, Men and the submission problem

 

2:30 thats part of the issue; it's true in life that a man doesn't "try to make efforts" to get a woman to submit to his leadership or authority-- It's something she gives by choice. It is not something he asks/ takes/or has to make an "effort" to make her do. It's not his place to milk submission out of her. Submission is something she gives, and if she doesn't feel he's worthy or? The more likely scenario is she lives in a culture that drilled into her that submission of safety or any kind of humbling herself is a threat to her agency. Which guarantees martial success is lessened or basic human connection is impossible. (a much more likely candidate to drop birthrates than economics and education, because cultural sociological incompetence is leagues more active than the latter)

Thus she lives an existence where she never defers submission or defers burden to any man, and eventually reaches burnout, resentment or frustration--- if you're dealing with a woman who thinks submission is defeating her autonomy then you're not dealing with a woman; you're entertaining a career-teenager that was groomed to be single forever, child of faux-feminism.

Women didn't fail, Modernity failed women. Egalitarianism works when applied to Traditional foundations, not the other way around.

Otherwise it's not the man's job to make an effort to make her submit, that's half the problem right there. It's not his place.

Women think submission is surrender, fallaciously confusing grace with being invisible, too insecure to realize a matriarch's submission is indication of agency and strength. A slave doesn't submit, they surrender or subservient; ask anyone that's tapped out on a sparring mat, submission is a choice.

And too many men think authority & leadership is a monarchy and a woman's submission is her falling in line, her being manageable or >docile<, when that's not submission. In fact docility might be also what women think submission is hence the intimidation of submitting.

Rest your minds, submission doesn't entail being subservient & fetching his slippers and if you got a man worth a damn, why not? Can't expect to maintain anything while serving no one but yourselves. You were groomed to be single, isolated and lonely forever. You were lied to.

Submission is something he earns through trust & integrity, fetched slippers is a testament of earned position-- not just being "the man" in the dynamic as an entitlement.

Same goes for the woman, you don't get put first just for being "the woman"; it's an entitlement as a WIFE, 100%, but to even get that far is something you should be earning beyond just being "in love". We're missing the plot on both sides. Too much talking past each other & not enough communication, and yet everybody wants something.

It's not sustainable, and it hasn't been. Wake the fuck up.

“They’re Overweight, Entitled, and Liberal” - Nick Fuentes Goes Off on M... (Happy Us, or It's Bogus")

I love this back & forth between them when Tucker started dissenting, ppl say (ppl meaning conservatives too ngl) Tucker didn't push back on Nick. Yes tf he did, he just wasn't confrontational, he did it with class, calmly. Big brother energy without Little Broing Nick, respectful.

This is an important caveat whenever men go "off" on women or perceived double standards, be it behavioral, social, professional, or systemic  3:00  the only reason why women might do it or abuse the privilege is they're allowed to do it and not only enabled but men are part of the issue enabling. Thus they abuse it. Doesn't alleviate women choosing to do it, but it's an important caveat to not hold it against them for exploiting social leeway and cheat codes made available in the first place. Because the cheat codes have had & exploit  (physical exploitations & abuse, status) they do so too at women's expense.  Goes both ways, always.🧠

And "happy wife happy life" is bullshit, it's the mantra of a slave, a keeper: Womankeeping. 

• You're the partner, protector: You serve her needs, not her servant: just as she does for you. If yer not both happy or more importantly: if the consideration of happiness runs more than the other person gives a damn, there's no relationship. 
• That slogan is just code for idol worship which just enables low quality women thinking being vain & selfish is natural, it's what it's always been: Woman worship. 

Just like Nick said, it's a "pedestal", you can want her to be happy, you can make her a priority without disregarding yourself. Women can make men happy without service being an existential attack on modern rigid norms of perceived "autonomy".¯\_(ツ)_/¯

• And no, women are not complex: double meanings, Holding subtext back is a maturity problem. 
• Communicative incompetence even, that's a damn teenager. Stop enabling this crap as "girls being girls". It's not cute, and it's not attractive nor inevitable, it's a conscious tactic to get the man to give a crap, or get his attention. The same type of vehicle some women use through arguments, questions, or celebration. It's just a social vehicle.

Nick is 1000% correct, this complexity myth is just more enabling. If your woman is acting like a damn riddle, encourage her to communicate more effectively: She'll be more satisfied by not making her life more miserable because you didn't decode her brainteaser of the week because of something you did or didn't say on a Thursday 7 years ago.

• Women are encouraged to self-actualize & their actual gods are "agency", "Independence"  & the Holy spirit: "Autonomy" = Me me me, which is fine, find yourself but don't get lost in yourself. Because with that much self worship the ONLY destiny suited for you is isolation. 

Meanwhile the needs of everyone else in their orbit is thrown into a black hole, because if they do even a pinch too much, many burnout or some crap.

• Because that mindset is not fit of a mother or a wife or a pillar of a family or community, its not resembling anything of a woman a Nation desperately needs. Thats a product of the times, a member of society but not a pillar of stability or a source of any strength, a disposable-- which is why "self" is pushed--

•  an isolated member is more disposable, a narcissist is easier to isolate-- #WARFARE: 

•  all to dillute less quality women being raised that will pose a threat to the same system feeding women terms like "mankeeping". The entire point is to groom customers of the propaganda system that needs women as a living, breathing ammunition to the fakeass "gender war" to somehow think being educated equals no family is the natural outcome, when its really about having a funky attitude no one wants to deal with.
• A woman that takes accountability cant be manipulated with a scapegoat (aka men as the villain of the week again), because owning your mistakes as a person or as a group is the ultimate agency no hashtag, academia article, or gender studies major can give you- ever.
• A woman that gives while knowing her worth enough to avoid exploitation, boundaries- isnt a woman thats transactional, thats a woman who labors, gauges output of labor thus avoids burnout and mentored by women to know the differnce vs complaining that adulthood is inconvenient because labors and thus inconvenience & labora are a womens issue when its not. 
• That kind of a woman is a threat because she fights injustice, isnt looking for a scapegoat. Won't accept one, thus immune to one. That is as much a threat as a man who won't apologize for telling the truth, or man enough to admit when wrong without allowing it to bruise his masculinity. Fail with grace, concede with class. A brutally undervalued lesson boys need to be proper husbands and girls learn the same thing through accountability.

There's a lot of women out here holding it down, I see it everyday but a too many of us are using "Self-preservation" to mask fragility and adulting skill issues.

 Underdeveloped ENDURANCE skill issue.

Men are told to step up, do more and then when her priority is herself, his priority is also her, what happens to him? No one gives a crap, that's NOT the design of God, Quantum moderator or nature, brotha Tucker.

She submits to him in the first place to serve his needs as priority out of respect and he makes her the priority because he values her as his honor: That doesn't translate to "Happy wife, Happy life." that translates to a perpetual system  of give & takes = " We win." That's the design, that's how it works.

We're conflating male's natural proclivity for the well being of women with making women the only priority when One person doesn't make a relationship of TWO people. This is where both left & right wings get it wrong doing the same thing but having different values while making the same mistakes.

• Women dont belong in the kitchen, they belong where Adams rib was, right next to men. Adams rib wasnt attached to his asscheeks, thus not behind him. Right NEXT to him. If religious ppl like to use the book so much there's your lore accurate parallel.
• One person being happy is not everyone being happy, women's progress in society is not everyone winning. Because if it doesn't work for you, if her mankeeping you is a problem, then it doesn't work at all even if she's benefitting instead at the cost of his womankeeping.
• Reciprocity is not what women say it is,🚨🚨🚨 I can't make that anymore clear.
• It's give and take on both ends of the spectrum, and no it's not about keeping score, because even Lesbians can't manage an algorithmic 50/50, by probability: it is impossible. It's solely about giving a shit which can exceed to 70/70 easily.  This is what I meant by a woman that evolved past transactional mindaet paranoia, and it is 100% paranoia. So much how people ruin what they have is what they tell themselves they deserve because they either overrate their labor or they only value labors they see directly in front of them-- and dont even realize the sacrifices made that they'll never know about but are venting on reddit to strangers about how they deserve better:

Which maps out how Social Media was a double edged sword and double shot of poison into the veins of humanity. It was a mistake.

So if men care about women's happiness more than women care in reverse? Or at least that's the perception?

 Or emotionally dense men that don't know how to initiate an emotional/social bonding moment with women without wives having to ask to talk every single time? (And years into a marriage, it can get demoralizing for women)

 You're not raising women or men, you have a generation of oblivious parasites that are harmless but too self-centered. 

Either you're in a RELAT+ionship or you're keeping someone's daughter or son-- for little to nothing for free.

Because the giving back is the payment, you're not getting that? Then It's for free fellas. Burnout doesn't just happen to women, there's a reason why men drop sooner than women, and it has as much to do with lack of support or consideration as it does diet & habits. 

It's about the team----Period (!) or not at all. 

It's that simple. 

"Happy US, or it's BOGUS." 👎👎 now put that shit on a t-shirt.♂♀

14:18 "-by serving each other" EXACTLY Tucker.✅ So logically If you're serving each other in the first place, that's the intended system, so naturally "happy wife, happy life" logically doesn't fit into that. Precisely my point.

Why Modern Men Feel Empty

another issue is entitlement due to natural instincts, yes all people who want to be with someone should be with someone, because people weren't made to be alone; but because you want to be with someone, doesn't mean everyone needs to be or should be.

A lot of people aren't built to be in relationships in todays atmosphere where partners aren't cultivated properly.

making a fairly neutral situation into a problem because you want to feel specifically the good parts about companionship that makes you feel good, not get into one to serve someone else but so you feel good- it's making something out of nothing.

A lot of those success stories is people letting nature run it's course, not force feeding nature wishes upon a star & expecting outcome on demand because you tried.

Causality don't work like that, accepting it may never happen contributes to it happening when it's supposed to.

And even if you got what you wanted, you won't appreciate it if you're desperate for it.

and if it doesn't happen, then it doesn't happen. with acceptance of denial of what you want is you avoiding disappointment of lack of something (despite the desire for it being natural instinct), still everyone is not even entitled to.

doesn't mean don't try, means don't over-extend for something that is a doorway to both positive and negative. Not anticipating it is time to be happy while waiting for opportunity to be happier vs expecting happiness to happen to you.

So many shows get varying relationships between girls wrong because some writers think getting along 24/7 equals chemistry-

when actual chemistry entails different & opposing elements mix to make a solution or compound or reaction.

Toph & Katara work because they're both flawed, had ego's for different reasons and grinded each other's gears constantly. Toph wasn't some overbearing abuser or Katara this halo ridden angel that was always right. Things they likely would be if re-written in today's zeitgeist

Instead they're written as believable real people despite being fiction, and that conflict only made it clear to each of them (& us) where each other's boundaries were overtime & how to respect them. Not handled one-off in one episode and then they never disagreed ever again but multiple times even tracing into Book 3.

 Same applies to the whole team honestly, the show's dynamics as a whole work mechanically because of the care put into the conflict ( which is why the pairings work so well); Point being, many politically correct/modern safe mode writings that aren't political *ex. My Hero* scripts tend to have women all being friends immediately or something and it's so boring, It doesn't work because even for fiction, that's too fake.

White Man Says He Is Tired Of Swirlers Using Him To Make Black Men Jealo...

"That shit is corny on both sides."

why men SHOULD pay for dates (ft.Vault boy x Vault girl) skit

 

CONTEXT: the sound byte is from Anna Akana's (dating women made me understand men) video, the the clip USED is the bullshit she USED to believe before she started dating women and found out how entitled her sisterhood is. --- Here's the issue

#1 NOT only did it take for her to date women to realize a common sense reality that making ONE group of people pay for your meals plus everything else, plus expecting them to protect you at their own expense just because you're a woman is beyond fucked up & privileged as hell -------

#2 SO If she wasn't bisexual and continued dating men she'd still be living comfortably believing her asinine delusion, in her OWN words continue to "dismiss" the complaints her male friends RIGHTFULLY have with that double standard (that women would NEVER put up with so why the fuck they think they should benefit from a privilege they wouldn't tolerate is insane.), ie. putting on makeup is a justifiable reason to expect another grown ass adult to pay for your food like you're a bonified child. And you are 100% comfortable with that, zero pride or self-awareness. 300% good with a stranger putting a silver spoon in your mouth. Aight bet.

and #3 Just goes to show that American Women specifically are treated better in their own country than War Veterans, without earning anything, rewarded for doing absolutely nothing worthy of it, contributing nothing and WILL NOT reciprocate the gesture of their own will. Cause they're the woman, and you're supposed to do that for them.

Now hear me and Listen: Treating some gussied up freeloader a 13$ meal isn't the end of the world, but keep in mind this is a generational privilege EXCLUSIVE to women, so consider how many free dinners they're being compensated in real time right now, years prior and years from now.

All that money just gifted, and for what? Being born the right sex, splendid. Sounds like #Maleprivilege to me.

Treating your wife/gf/bf/hubby every once in a while ain't the problem. It's the "As he should"/"Supposed to" #entitlement attitude for me. Mm-mm, absolutely not.

#genderequality #memes

Snob vs Virtue Signaling: The value of Relationships

Exactly, the quality of the relationship is being overlooked just for the aesthetic of being in one or having one. It's exactly how people treat sex and babies, ""having done it" or "having one", materialism and ego.

People can say they conformed to norms. Social brownie points, and at the end of the day, doing all of that gave you no advantage or superpowers.

We treat relationships like a box on a to do list. Pressuring ourselves for no reason, then we do finally do it, it's like "Okay, now what?" Lmfao, it's not like sex cures cancer, it's a glorified docking mechanism to create more people but somehow humans hijacked it to be social sport.

And because we treat sex & coupling so recklessly, it's treated like a game. People hop into it just so they say they have it or doing it. Thus the meaning is nonexistent.

Like marriage, It doesn't meant anything anymore, we experience it to say we "lived" in a childish superficial shallow sense and not live the experience to commit to it.

And yes, snob, it's not just having it, it's what you do, where you go, and most importantly what you bring to the table and what is built from it. The QUALITY.

Hence why Chibi is the same EXACT mf he was before he involved himself with her. And we haven't heard much from her or about her since.

He showed her off like a new toy, and then when things got normal, things got boring, she either left or he left. Now he's back to square one.

No different for a divorcee on their 3rd attempt at playing house.

*It's like the saying, "people don't make love anymore, they just have sex and fuck."*

Relationships have a fickle purpose in modern world, trivialized & inflated at the same time, people using other human beings to inflate their own egos, than build networks.

Associations with a set purpose of justifying your sense of existential security, than craft a bond.

Building a bond is not even a concept anymore, doesn't even come up in passing conversation for most people, most of us just fuck, use each other up, dating simulator, and move on. Doesn't mean people aren't "in love" or feel anything, but being in love just means being in the moment. And while that's enough for many, it also means it's on a timer, because feelings (without an anchor of trust, transparency or respect) do not last forever, doesn't mean anything when it doesn't last thus the premise of the couple was ultimately a failure, one of many.

Not that everything should be a ceremony but this is what happens when society snorts too much cynicism when it comes to relationships, you trivialize things you shouldn't be treating like a joke.

Then wonder why nothing you have with someone ever lasts. It's got nothing to do with humans not being meant for monogamy, and it's got everything to do with current culture warping people's expectations and standards into cold unfeeling hedonistic impulse.

People just going through the motions.

Too many people have fun when they're teens, and never grow up. Have so much fun trying to rack up experiences to say you lived, you forgot to build a foundation to experience being alive.

TL;DR Marriage, Relationships, sex, babies. Because a lot of us feel it's expected, so many do it to do it because you can do it, most of us then take it for granted.