And most importantly, it's important the society's role in making women dangerous to men and making men to women women's worst best interest when both situations are not true. It's been illustrated, it orchestrated to be like this. That's what we're diverting attention to all of these other economic categories, just to avoid saying modernity failed.
Otherwise, that is the first issue with this video, the single lens perspective that only exists to affirm frustration than properly adjust it.
_*Instinct is wanting women,* to join to build legacy, defense mechanism is retreat from modern patterns. There's a difference_
Running away is not instinct, that's not a man, preserving yourself from women by shutting them out is not instinct, just like VICE telling women that mankeeping justifies women opting out to self preserve as if emotional labor burnout is unique to men when its not, lesbian go through the same thing, so now articles are lying to women to seed & cultivated resentment in them that they have no right possessing on grounds of "reciprocity", absolute nerve of these outlets.
But this video wont mention that part, so some Ai Schlock video telling to you plug your ears to anyone telling you other than what you want to hear-- is literally no different from what Buzzfeed articles do to women's brains.
As long as outlets keep representing only one side of the coin, ONLY the male perspective here or academia and article outlets only represent women lens & neglect men's life experience in the matter.
You'll never get to the core of the issue beyond just recycling the fact that the issue exists and then shift the ball to their court.
Complaints, zero resolve or solution.
*Simply put, the solution is changing the attitude.
The video's *focus on yourself endorsement is part of the what caused the problem, you're more married to your self-interest than you're willing to be to another person, pure hubris. Just like most modern women. Your religion is agency and your god is your own agenda, this is why alot of American neighborhoods are like desolate town towns from Fallout 3.
Too selfish.
Solution: If connecting to women is not working, then being more self-centered is not a solution, it's an escape. And if you genuinely want to opt out? Then don't complain about what women aren't doing for you, when you're not willing to listen.
Videos like this only serve to validate worldviews than reflect how the world is and how to solve your situation. Just fluff and filler in under 30minutes. Abd for women its deflections, excuses & fallacious self-help points in 8 paragraphs or less.
On both sides its unearned validation: "You're the main character, they should change for your sake, you've done enough. You deserve a break. If they don't perform, let them burn."
Sounds like a mantra to devolve the human species, and you entertain it everyday.
Men could have the best situation in marriage, both divorcees could get 50/50 from each other, or alimony is gone entirely and still men would mess up marriage on some dumb shit, because the mindset and the attitude is the exact same. Having nothing to offer women but good intentions.
_Think about it idealistically, even if you had nothing to lose, no alimony risk, what would change in the birthrates when the core of the problem is the attitudes people possess? How do you even see women? What is a woman to you? The real issue isn't women using divorce as a weapon, more so the kind of women you choose in the first place._
So is it really the deal solely? That never stopped your predecessors. What's different now vs then-- is the generation.
Most of the American women are more undesirable, globally, their independece is internationally held up as a beacon but back home "Independent" is latin for sexually/intimately "Isolated" & masculinized.
And their options of men are sullied because men have also been defanged, the masculinity for many has been "challeneged" & redefined to where it's a parody of the masculinity women respected & trusted in the first place.
Cause on that same token, are you a 10 out of 10 catch? Or a 6 at the least? What do you think being high quality means as a man?
Solution: Change how you engage with the women in your immediate space in life where shit matters, not a picture some Ai video fed you. Or some soulless metric here, or a meaningless statistic there--- the reality is real, but alot of it is just a mindgame to demoralize you when the world directly outside your doorway is not the gray sludge you read on the internet.
The boundaries you set is how you change your own relationships going forward.
This isn't some cultural shift that's going to happen when society gives up because enough of men or women opted out, no one's going to cave to your demands or tantrums. You change the culture on your level first, because unless the President addresses it (& they wont, not with the fire needed), videos like this are just fluff.
Marriage is a bad deal but it's not the problem, the people you attract is the vehicle to divorce. Stop giving up because that's easier & change your pool of options, a lot of males just do not want to try and use men who did try as a reason to judge women they don't even know yet--- in the past, that was me. Foolish.
The luxury of social media.
Women in Wyoming aren't like women in NYC. Cali girls are not like the one's in Maine or New Mexico. The change has to be begin with what you tell yourself is preventing you from succeeding. Maybe you have shite taste in women, ever thought of that? And if the options in your country are that bad? Relocate. Italty, Spain, Iceland. But don't do so with the wrong attitude, because imagine going to another country with this preconception that American women were the problem. Put the quality women, you run two another country sees nothing of value in you; because it turns out you were part of the problem back home as well.
You don't wanna be a object of a success or screwed by the system, when that's exactly how men use women in terms of sex for era's on end, not just an object of sex, women were the object of social success that men enforced on each other. Which is where the stigma of being a virgin came from, it came from MEN! And women enforced it.
So who are you really mad at here for allowing it to get like this!? Men in power not setting boundaries with women & women's groups is how things got out of control. Men are the head, the authority, men allowed it to get like this.
All women make real professional sacrifices of career, bodily sacrifices to try marriage. But none of that is mentioned in the video, as if men are the only ones taking it without a rubber in this situation.
Flawed video by design.
_Otherwise American men aren't exactly the creme of the crop either._
Solution: You're not the only one getting screwed, you're neglected by the society, but you're not the only victims. Change your attitude by hearing what women have to say too and if women do the same(plenty are) thats progress.
To reiterate: *Focusing on self/ self-worship aka running away from the issue (Shinji Ikari all over again. On both sides.), making demands and complaining about a system being flawed is just putting the ball in someone else's court so you don't have to do better, improve yourself, or get off your ass and do anything------ is the same "perform for me" crap that women do 24/7.
Modern men are no different from the women now.
You point out the issue exists, little to no pitches to fix it, just vindicating the people that gave up and that's your input. that's the video.
Some walk away for economic reasons, but i repeat that has nothing to do with people opting out and running away from each other-- which is an intrinsic sociological virus.
Too many seem to think women on Buzzfeed or Reddit represent all women. Or the women in their state represents all American women. Or American women are the only women that exist on Earth.
Lack of experience, brutal lack of nuance and narrow perspective is the common trope of videos like this (male or female geared), it just repeats what disgruntled people want to hear, over and over again. Like you've grown up with this cultural rot for so long, the best cope is just living with it.
solution: The problem & solution is your fetish to be justified no matter what and that perception you're presented by what you watch isn't as big of an issue as you make it seem. You complain about what women want & don't want, and their illogical inconsistencies as if thats a new concept and OP doesn't propose that these boys simply assert to the women they date what they're going to get regardless of what they want and then ask the woman what she wants, then negotiate. 
Which is communication, assertion, being a man.
You'd be surprised how flexible women are when they get over their initial outrage when you don't frame your assertion as an opinion but as a statement of "Just how it is". Men aren't men anymore, & women don't respect you because you just want women to hand you respect right out the gate, submission immediately, you don't want to work for anything. Just like women expect something for nothing & think submission is a threat to their agency-- your country essentially stopped making women & men, which is why you cant find any.
All you have are hyper-independent career teenagers.
Current gen men are too whiney about what women do or don't do (because outlets groom enough women this way for it to effect birthrates, & it haa nothing to do with womend education or economic red herrings) when women are impressionable & inconsistent which is what women do, always have.
All it takes is flattery & a scapegoat to own women's allegiance. Says Daddy Gov.
That's not an excuse, that's the reality.
That's how you get Mansults every other year, women being told they're leaving men behind, which is a lie. Men just dont live their lives in the subcategories women do, and what women do: society chooses or chose those fields to measure success. So modernity is holding women to a rigid norm and men are "falling behind" because they're not following the norm.
"flattery & a scapegoat", that's all it takes.
*Which is why the media & outlets IGNORE MEN to target women, because they're easier.* Stop ignoring the fact that women are being used, to then blame women about women's own confusion when where they're getting it from is a third party in the first place. And that includes Feminism, or what Feminism was turned into at least.
Your retreat & frustration (male or female) is understandable but it's also part of the gender war business, why are you playing their game on their terms? "They" being the media & talking point generators:
POV: always question what the purpose is in constantly illustrating men as women's enemy, always ask yourself why do outlets and academia feel the need to make men counterproductive to women & make women seem aa if they're always in the right when women themselves knows thats a lie?
Solution: Because Men are the first line of defense, if they keep men away from women culturally or manage to break men into leaving by choice, then their grip on women stays firm. Male resentment or retreat only enables your own neglect. The game you need to stop playing isn't entirely marriage, it's this self-pity party that aims a sharp blade in the wrong direction.
That's why men serve as the anchor for women in terms of intellectual agency, not that women don't possess it, but men are naturally the primary threat to powers & Governments.
Or men should be, otherwise when you're this sensitive and fickle & ready to run because things aren't going your way or someone isn't comforting your national experience: women might as well should just date each other at that point, if the males are this soft & self-pitiable.
It doesn't mean settle for being the last priority or be a punching bag as a male, it means change the rules of engagement on your level, which is the only paradigm you can control.
Let's be blunt: I repeat, *Men & women look at statistics, you feel it's hopeless, you look for videos like this validate & rub your belly and feel good about giving up.
Majority of you likely haven't gone through half the burns boomers have but you adopt the generational struggle just to feel like you're united in being passionately disillusioned over something you can't control.
And as an added bonus: You have someone to blame, thus a proverbial "opposition"*
It's the lack of control here, not entirely what women are doing, it's that you feel you can't control the matter.
And the only way you can feel agency here is just giving up. That's the best you can do to "pwn" the ugliness of the topic that's frankly hurting men & women.
It's a hail mary for control.
The solution isn't running away, it's listening, it's being receptive. 23:23 how are you going to expect women to listen when you don't listen, how are you going to expect women not take implications of what men want as fact, when that's what you're doing?
When is why women's perspective isn't represented here even as a frame of reference, just echo chamber.
The double standard of women not matching what they expect from men, THIS VIDEO is enabling viewers to be the same exact hypocrite. You want to be heard but not listening. Is the point of the video to TRY to resolve? or just cement seeds of resentment & vindicated indifference and call that "instinct", which is laughable because that effectively helps men by value of absolute 0%.
You're not slam dunking anyone by just retreating into your shell. You are playing yourselves harder than alimony, or "modern feminism", or the "the patriarchy" ever could. 
