/re Black Women Think They are So Smart | Women, Men and the submission problem

 

2:30 thats part of the issue; it's true in life that a man doesn't "try to make efforts" to get a woman to submit to his leadership or authority-- It's something she gives by choice. It is not something he asks/ takes/or has to make an "effort" to make her do. It's not his place to milk submission out of her. Submission is something she gives, and if she doesn't feel he's worthy or? The more likely scenario is she lives in a culture that drilled into her that submission of safety or any kind of humbling herself is a threat to her agency. Which guarantees martial success is lessened or basic human connection is impossible. (a much more likely candidate to drop birthrates than economics and education, because cultural sociological incompetence is leagues more active than the latter)

Thus she lives an existence where she never defers submission or defers burden to any man, and eventually reaches burnout, resentment or frustration--- if you're dealing with a woman who thinks submission is defeating her autonomy then you're not dealing with a woman; you're entertaining a career-teenager that was groomed to be single forever, child of faux-feminism.

Women didn't fail, Modernity failed women. Egalitarianism works when applied to Traditional foundations, not the other way around.

Otherwise it's not the man's job to make an effort to make her submit, that's half the problem right there. It's not his place.

Women think submission is surrender, fallaciously confusing grace with being invisible, too insecure to realize a matriarch's submission is indication of agency and strength. A slave doesn't submit, they surrender or subservient; ask anyone that's tapped out on a sparring mat, submission is a choice.

And too many men think authority & leadership is a monarchy and a woman's submission is her falling in line, her being manageable or >docile<, when that's not submission. In fact docility might be also what women think submission is hence the intimidation of submitting.

Rest your minds, submission doesn't entail being subservient & fetching his slippers and if you got a man worth a damn, why not? Can't expect to maintain anything while serving no one but yourselves. You were groomed to be single, isolated and lonely forever. You were lied to.

Submission is something he earns through trust & integrity, fetched slippers is a testament of earned position-- not just being "the man" in the dynamic as an entitlement.

Same goes for the woman, you don't get put first just for being "the woman"; it's an entitlement as a WIFE, 100%, but to even get that far is something you should be earning beyond just being "in love". We're missing the plot on both sides. Too much talking past each other & not enough communication, and yet everybody wants something.

It's not sustainable, and it hasn't been. Wake the fuck up.