https://youtu.be/b5LfY0cvVAo?feature=shared
"assertive but not hostile"
"protective but not possessive"
"strong but not aggressive"
So they want an emotionally competent person, but that's not all they want.
And more importantly: *"You don't deserve traits out of anyone that you don't possess yourself. "*
The video is semi- decent, we're missing links or AT LEAST citations of the names of these studies in the video at least. Put them in the end of the video or just put it in description (so you can edit & avoid typo mistakes in the video).
All this is is telling men what they need to do to perform for women yet again. Essentially change men should themselves if they don't subscribe to that. And as usual, we're NEVER told what the grocery list for women to perform for men, what they bring to the table, how they need to change to men.
A child is another obligation, its not a favor, not a contribution, nor an advantage. Its a possible advantage but just having a child is not a slamdunk on life, you have to raise it to be a utility, vs being a future burden to society.
So childbirth itself is not bringing something to the table, it's a consequence of sex. Because without him shes not birthing anything, and hes going to have to support the child too. As he should.
The issue is the female perspective is all men are subjected to, and many men are rightfully sick of hearing "why" or the psychology of why women do what they do and not why don't women do better or what they're doing to be worthy of their own standards.
*Thats what this video is, its explaining to us that women want evolutionary advantages (fine) in men that many of them/ they themselves DO NOT POSSESS (not fine).*
The problem is women want whats out of their league while their hands are empty and the ONLY reason why it's out of their league is because their hands are empty & they don't match half of what they expect in the first place
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That's the funny part.
Because they never think "Let me match the energy. What can I do better, am I strong but not aggressive, am I hostile?"
Women want performance and do not perform preemptively, this is why women go home alone on Friday nights if a man doesn't just give her his attention for absolutely nothing.
That is how women render themselves obsolete. Childbirth will always guarantee women remain relevant, but women being obsolete is happening & it's women's fault but it's also an opportunity.
How so? Well thanks to feminism, women are in a pivotal situation where they have to perform and actually bring something to the table or sink, they have an opportunity to raise the bar of what a "Real woman" is for their girls going forward.
Men walking away is a good thing, because women have the ability to do something to bring men back, which is leverage, that's power. The problem is women are programmed by society to be lazy.
We're not in the 40s anymore where women's lack of societal autonomy warranted the special treatment, back when gender roles weren't twisted and mutilated.
Being a burden, who wants assertion but only the kind she likes, or he has to look like this, and act like this, drive that, assert like this but not too aggressive, have this much, do this and that with a sprinkle of that over there and a hint & dash of this and this and this and this.
What makes women worthy of any of that? Are they a nice person to be with a nice person?
Is she great enough to be with the best man.
Being a high maintenance burden is not attractive and being a liability is not a evolutionary advantage worthy of procreation. Now THAT needs to be a video, we need to stop coding girls to believe being a burden is something men want to procreate with.
"assertive but not hostile"
"protective but not possessive"
"strong but not aggressive"
'Consistently providing for the group'
Is just an emotionally competent person, a useful human being, but again, is she any of that? And if not, why not. What makes her entitled to someone who is effectively better than her as a citizen?
*"If women don't match what they expect, they deserve no match. Male or female, you don't deserve traits out of anyone that you don't possess yourself."*
#AsSheShould
Thats the price of modernity, that's the price of challenging gender roles, now we question everything = women have to carry their weight. You dont get to sit back, make demands, & think "emotional intelligence" or companionship is a contribution & get carried.
Match exactly what you want or reevaulate what it is you think you want.
There's a difference between 'What women want' and 'what they respond to', not my words, 4 others & more have noted that distinction in the comments, and they are right.
(An Ok video that's just trying to steer men right, I appreciate OP's intentions. Next time add sources, and include the charges of what tangible resources women should bring to the table and the evolutionary advantages women possess that men should want. Not everything is about what women want this week. And thats all we hear about, as if womens wombs cure cancer)
(We need more nuances, this kind of video is too 2013, we need more, we need both sides. Given its psychology, what men want isn't a deep topic. So go the extra mile next time. I'd be glad to watch an extra 10 minutes that isnt telling me what men hear everywhere else- "Women want this because they want it because instinct/ evolution", so sick of hearing that excuse and not hear what men get in return on the investment.
No one tryna have that conversation.)
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