"How to make it stop" (size fetishism) /r

 "Basically, I have a giant fetish and I absolutely hate it. I've had it for years and I hate the fact I have it. It makes me deeply uncomfortable despite me telling myself it's normal and ok to have a weird sexual interest. Like, it's genuinely causing me great mental distress the fact i have it and I just want to know if there's a way "to make me not have it anymore"

Thanks for sharing. **

It persists despite what you say because what we want to be true there boils down to a destigmatization efforts, which is cultural subjectivity and has nothing to do with reality.

It's ok to admit that a child's imprint misfire that created the seed was normal, but the fetish itself is not. Repeating these fickle destigmatization talking points only exacerbates the problem. As its been for more than a decade.

Fetishes are not sacred concepts. Acknowledge that first, then letting it go becomes easier.

• macro-isms Is symptom of a cultural saga but not a clinical illness, nor is it a benefit, natural/genetic/ nor a passed on evolutionary advantage
• You don't need it, it needs you. Remember that.
• It prevailing in the mind is just lingering impressions from years ago circulating throughout the brain, reinforced through internet shenanigans
• it's sexual & it likely (not always) derived from childhood imprinting miswire, that by itself is why it's persistent.

There's no quick way to not have it anymore, but there is a way to divorce it gradually

• Slowing it's roll won't be like flipping a switch
• what will determine the difficulty of leaving it behind, is lingering invasive thoughts prevailing of the fetish solely due to how long the mind has been subjected to the media.

Be it a person, a scene, an image. Go back to the source of which triggered it & realize in reality: it meant nothing. Rob it of it's power, take actual control, & that requires making peace with it, not accepting it, making peace.

If it was a movie scene, then it's a stupid scene in a movie, meaningless. If it was a good movie 'MvA', watch it. What needs to be normalized is defanging the triggers. Not make a career out of turning nothing into something it's not.

And if therapy is needed to do that, do it.

But "owning it", is not taking control, letting it go is total agency.

TL;DR Don't distress yourself, A fetish is not as significant as people think it is, it's not permanent, it's a psychological aftertaste you can train out through consistent counterconditioning . Neuroplasticity is real, you can re-train fixated brain stimuli, you have to be consistent & find other focuses, goals, priorities.

learned behaviors can be unlearned, it's just exaggerated because fetishism & easy internet access with no barrier can incentivize devotion, obsession: fetish

• Regardless If you can't remember the origin-- focus on what in the fetish triggers you specifically
• Dissecting what & why of the triggers specifically & realizing it's not who you are. It's an adoption of a faulty imprint.
• Finally, connect the dots between fantasy with IRL parallels, macrophilia at base, is just a contrived convolution of human sexual relation, even vore.

Deprive the urge the reward of dopamine, starve it. The fuel for the eternal hunt for sizefix is dopamine; a fetish like many devotee behavior is a reward-driven reinforcement behavior which incentivizes addiction & adoption. Deprive the reward, remove the triggers.

"Closure", the word is closure.

But you have to do the work to get there, & that by itself is why many just dive into indulgence, it's easier to just sink to the bottom. The path of least resistance is always easier.

Where, What, Why.

The *how? is irrelevant, children's imprinting is unpredictable, subject to error, & its the only "normal/natural" phase of this entire situation. Children are supposed to imprint, what they imprint on is the caveat.

• Most kids of varying age don't know what they're looking at or how to process it, nor do they know to ask the parents about what it is they feel or saw.
• So a lot of what people think is a part of who they are is an artificial chimera of festered internalizations (not equivalent to changes to one's character through organic relationships) And now just act on it because the stimuli is sexual and that alone makes it a positive or a statement of existence, allegedly.

Most people's trigger-happy descent into it derives from lack of information and other people's hatred of it/ or unfortunately themselves for having it, derives from lack of information.

Limit social media time, delete folders, bookmarks, cut the fetishes lifeline. You have to replace it and form a new habit chain for your brain to imprint on.