4:40 To be fair "discouraging" someone from prioritizing oneself is not forcing someone to do that. Especially a stay at home person in post 2010, and NOT in a third world country.
Society's "progress" had a hand in sabotaging women on the way to this point, but that was simply the consequence of what women wanted.
Otherwise, way too many options for women to then say you can't prioritize yourself because of metaphysical ""them" / "they"/ "society" discouraging or making it difficult, when in reality you're just too busy because of the life you chose.
Imagine me blaming beauty standards for men is something done because of society, because i chose to compare myself to action stars. Is that society's fault? Or mine for doing that to myself?
The gap here is accountability vs victim narrative.
If you have kids, thats a given you'll have less priority but that doesn't mean you can't have any, otherwise it's an excuse.
Same with men blaming women's standards, you'd be surprised how flexible women are when they actually like you.
You have to find a balance yourself, if you stay at home as a wife with no kids, or have kids & you're just that coordinated, you have greater opportunity to modify having priority vs a woman in a cubicle. And even what kind of work you even choose to pursue matters, we need to think about demands of the actual career before hopping into it, how much time would you want to yourself 10 years later when you want to be with someone & slow down?
Standards & expectations aren't the devil here, they're guidelines, stop blaming them and start using them.
*These are things one needs to think about, none of this is something society owes you. But again it did have a hand in making it more difficult for people by allowing "progress" to go in this direction.*
As if anyone in 2025 expects perfection from women when what men want is an afterthought or something to be dissected as problematic to only further discourage them from even bothering to date, since their needs are irrelevant.
"Beauty standard" is code for "ideal", men will settle for anyone willing to both pay attention and perform without making their life a living hell. It's that simple.
Comparing yourself to some model on Insta is a choice that stems from pressure, but it is a choice. But don't then settle for being unkept or unattractive or bland, then wonder why no one's approaching or paying attention vs the women that do try.
*You cannot have it every single way and still come out on top. Politics lied to you, women are not the main character.*
The difference between male & female loneliness or how it's addressed is victim narrative, men are usually painted as not doing something or AFRAID of rejection and women have this overtone of something being done specifically to them that's preventing their success. aka NOT MY FAULT syndrome. Which just robs women of agency to fix the problem.
You are not victims, your era failed you, yes; but not in the ways you think. This exhaustion was fought for, being able to feel that labor that men always felt came with the equality.
"CONSEQUENCE" is the word missing from this video, overall decent points but the delivery & overtone is too self-defeating, some of it true, yes. Majority of it is an excuse to just externalize, so you can feel you did nothing wrong.
We should take a note from Rocky's speech & stop finding someone to blame because we aren't where we want because of soft "discouragement", which is just an excuse to say one feels bad because not moving resulted in them remaining still & achieving nothing.
whats happening is the progressive world we fought for on womens behalf wasn't all sunshine and rainbows in the outcome,
what men had going on at work wasn't exactly ideal for living to the fullest for women's specific experience. That's what happened.
That's what this is really about, women not being allowed to just have it both ways as a norm package. You have to cultivate that situation, carefully & timely; it's not a birthright society owes you or us. You are not owed professional AND martial success when convenient because you might feel standards or expectations should be men's burden but not yours..
Having to bust your butt isn't fun, I 1000% back that superwoman syndrome situation, yet that came with the independent agenda. We call it superwoman but it's really just being an adult. Sacrifices have to be made to survive, and we blame having to make those exhausting sacrifices on society's rules of engagement forcing us to bend, when this is what women fought for in the first place, the opportunity to even do this much.
Post feminism-regret maybe? "What was intended vs what women got" Maybe that's worth a video for OP, if they didn't make it already.
It's not always something being done to you, i won't sit here & pretend there aren't female specific hurdles men will never know (just remember there are hurdles men deal with that women won't ever suffer either): the word is "consequence" of progress but you are not powerless in the matter either.
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