The problem is these moves are female driven but ultimately being made by men that own these entities & women as a group are the mascots for the change.
Which makes women the scapegoat for the failure & the infractions:
ergo: "See ? See?! When you make it female, it fails."
Which is as much a red herring as the forced changes.
Thus the illusion is women are the face of the issue but women aren't driving this entirely, even less so the average woman, because all the men in charge need to do is say "No" & if women are in charge, it still wouldn't have gotten this far if men didn't cave and lower standards.
If women pushed for Girls to be in the Boy Scouts & the answer was "no, period". Women would complain, there would be articles and women would get over it, no choice but to. that's the energy that needs to be had here. This isn't about rights or inclusion, it's about conquest.
*But the gap is the average man can't control that, the men in charge of these IPs do.*
If there's been one million men that did something more impressive for over 100 years and a women does the same thing but mediocre:
She's celebrated because she's the first woman or girl that did it.
Mediocrity is a woman's peak, all she has to do is participate & that's all it takes to be a pioneer now.
Being useful is not required, & the women actually pioneering are swept under the rug. (Emmanuelle Charpentier and Jennifer Doudna)
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That's the level of stagnation girls are brainwashed to believe is their "modern" destiny, a figurehead, a protestor, a nobody. Why? Because it the work for the most part has been done already by people who actually suffered & took risks to get it done.
But the useful women that actually earned their accolades are damn near myths, not because some Patriarchal enclave of old white men are afraid to get the word out that women did something useful beside make meatloaf in human history; if that's the case, those hypothetical "they" would just wipe the internet of their names, because who reads books anymore.
TL;DR Those women are myths because everyday modern women don't care what women do until some plain jane gets a "breaking boundaries" headline for signing up & being the first girl to do it.
Everything women do is a statement, because they're bored & there's next to nothing to do in their first world countries. Adopting struggles from other countires because you have little to any in your own. Burden of privilege.
The illusion of being exceptional vs the exceptional are almost illusions after their 15 minutes run out.
The loudest ones doing the least, standards lowered, not held accountable as much if at all.
Whatever women want, they eventually get, the world revolves around them, meanwhile they're not building or producing parallel to what they inherit and are given.
Despite how much even the women of merit "contribute" they're still not building much of anything still, they usually repurpose what's been founded already, which is why the hard labor field gender ratio statistics are brutal. Women have pioneered but the vast majority come along after the hard work's been done already & are held up as if they're pioneers.
AI's usual excuses is Historically, women were held back from laying down those foundations. But the truth is, women simply do not think like men. They lack the testosterone to be pioneers to the same extent that men are, that testosterone extremity is why males dominate violent crime statistics, and women dont.
Women simply do not have the drive that men do. And thats not a bad thing, the issue arrives is when women are attributed accolades that they don't deserve and the reality that everything they know and society. And civilization, as a tangible reality, is not because of women and girls are not taught to acknowledge that, but mediocrity is worth praise, that's the problem.
Otherwise: what's womens excuse now? There's no excuses now, we're not in the 1600s. Plenty of women are dwveloping breathroughs via tech, bio-medicine, etc. but what are they building thats equivalent to what they're handed constantly? There's zero excuse.
Gender roles dont require women burn themselves out trying to be something they are not; women can contribute what they can at their own pace without having to be an extremity like males are.
But when we gaslight men that they're falling behind women in some way, the natural inversion of that claim needs to be a question: What exactly are women building equivalent to What men have done? And are still doing without womens help?
When the standard of success is a feminized Lens (therapy, soft skill fields, education), we can selectively paint a tailored reality where women are always ahead and men are always behind. But what women aren't doing is never part of the equation because life isn't just about the comfy luxury of therapy, degrees vs a certification and never getting your hands dirty so the country's lights stay on another 2 days.
That's not healthy.That's not sane, that's not fair to women or men.And it's not functional, and it 's not sustainable. Its a rigid norm.
That is the threshold where women become a blatant weaklink--- when there's no accountability or boundaries, when women aren't ever told "No", and they ignore how much they're not doing in society but they're told they're ahead by selectively chosen statistics, aka bold faced lying by the media.
That is the turning point when women become a liability. And when that's your norm from psychology, to broad academia, to pop culture, to the damn Boy Scouts? You're cooked.
Feminization by itself isn't a bad thing, your mother did it in everyday of your childhood, it's what made you feel safe since infancy, that maternal presence, taking behavioral cues from your mother is feminization.
But the cultural exploitation of it or the lack of the masculine to balance it out, all of which without boundaries is why it's an antagonistic force, same could be said about feminisms current flavor.
Masculinization without parameters is equally smothering, but the masculine builds, the feminine exploits what's already built. One builds, the other mainly consumes and "repurposes".
It's just more acceptable to say men are behind based on selective statistics, than admit women are a blatant societal liability because they're allowed to be.
And girls are shielded from that reality: they genuinely think theft of boys spaces is inclusion but preservation of women's spaces while absorbing everything men have- isn't a double standard. Thus that's a liability, blatantly a burden.
TL;DR A bratty little sister that always gets her way, everything she that goes wrong in her experience is the brothers fault. But while the brother comes to resent the little sister, the actual source of the problem is the people allowing the entire situation & telling her she's an empowered "princess": The parents are the problem.*
*the problem, truly, are the people "allow-"ing it in the first place, & after 15 years+ of decline, profit and efficiency is clearly not the reason.
A female dominated field is progress, anything male dominated is something that needs to change*
It's pure warfare. Women are being set up to be the ultimate weaklink of civilization or at minimum: the face & mascot of decline, when that's not their cosmic design.
It's pure evil, not because of a change to a stupid fictional universe, I could care less.
The good movies we like already exist, just go watch those, just go play those older games, read those comics, watch the good shows that we have already.
So more importantly, the predictable resentment these changes brew in men is as much a calculated outcome as the "mankeeping" term is for womens reactions, it's pure propaganda, it's science. It's machiavellian probing.
People's reactions are the chemical outcome that these changes depend on, and people keep feeding into the formula.
Men's scorn is exactly what these agents want by taking something from men & boys or sharing it with girls & women aka repurposing it for women & girls; and men & boys just have to deal with it. And that's "equality".
But again: who's allowing them to do it, who's allowing women to think that's right? A group? A Political party? An ideology? It's definitely not just women allowing this because women aren't the vast majority of elites that control everything.
Why aren't the men in charge saying "No"? which is my point. Liberalism is not Leftism, Leftism is the radical feather of the liberal wing, it's important to know the difference.
There's a reason why this has been permitted, no boardroom fails their industry on purpose because "progress".
The warning, there are some women that advocate for cultural invasions, but they can't do anything they're not allowed to.
So demonizing "feminization/ Fem" eventually leads to resentment of the association of "fem" to Women. I already see it through what feminism did via "patriarchal/patri" / Father/ Men.
Despite feminisms resources are plentiful because of the father system, feminism has the luxury to poke the bear & not get it's head bitten off.
But that luxury extends to women invading spaces they have no business touching, at least to this extent. (example: girls don't belong in boy scouts, boy scouts should be for boys. What women allegedly were after beit a badge or funding, they should've done the work vs taking a shortcut via invading Boys spaces. But a franchise wanting to shake up a formula by appealing to girls too is not a bad thing. the issue is how you're doing it.)
Speaking out, keeping your kids away from these hypocritical organizations, boycotts, replacement organizations are the best chances you have against this.
Cultural Distancing, put on your mask by not feeding into it with your energy every single time you feel the urge to speak.
You might even have a better response than what would've been your gut reaction if you just wait at least 2 hours to 24 hours before posting your reply.
Because speaking on it alone won't do anything, these organizations can afford & have afforded decades of this: or will collapse trying, because in the end: that's the gambit-
A normal business model takes a chance to change it's target audience if the previous one fails to fund product, to betray the previous audience that never left to actively replace them for a new audience is an ideological decision. And over a decade of failure without admission of mistake or changes to the approach shows it's not about money.
It's collapse for a statement for a gaslight for a red herring, all for no one.
“It’s Not Just a Feeling: Data Shows Boys and Young Men Are Falling Behind” — according to what standard?
The issue with this notion is we selectively choose what areas women are excelling in, notice men aren’t doing that: then decide men are falling behind while ignoring the areas women are lacking in.
That is called a gaslight, controlling the narrative. Selectively.
So instead of stating men & women are counterbalancing each other economically, it’s about someone being behind. Hierarchy language, how patriarchal, & not very inclusive.
Or women burn themselves out trying live up to feminisms modern rigid norm of women essentially being a social, professional & emotional jack of all trades; without equipping them with the common sense to gauge their own output or slow the hell down.
Hence why it’s not being in relationships with men that’s burning women out, because as women are becoming more single, childless, adhering to feminisms rigid norms and single women still suffer burnout.
So "burnout" has less to do with men and more to do with women's stamina threshold as adults, and what women are doing to be "ahead".
Academia is now telling us men are falling behind a failing model that's draining women in the first place. Brilliant. 👏
A narrative that sought to address or sensationalize men's decline is actually illustrating women's overarching issues, the truth is funny like that.
Basically women living a parody of what we thought being a man was about: Career worship vs having a purpose to serve, which is the essence of being a man, having a stake.
A man without purpose or stake is a man who takes his own life, that is what Matheson’s “The Incredible Shrinking Man” was about. Not the bullshit term “toxic masculinity” or fragile masculinity or any of these antagonistic “[insert scrabble word]-masculinity” bingo games:
It was & is about a man’s existential horror: purpose, utility & his stake being progressively removed and violated.
While the main enemy was his own self-imposed paranoia & he did things in response to that panic that wasn’t right, such as misplaced anger to his wife (which plenty boys do in the form of frustration with how society works against males in favor of women which bleeds into manifesting into misogyny), yet the existential reality of Scott was very real, and his panic was 100% valid — that he was indeed becoming irrelevant by force. But he was still relevant & a person to Louise.
The situation was not his fault but he also was becoming something greater than any human, he just didn’t know it.
His transition could’ve been smoother for him and everyone involved if he ignored what the situation (society) entailed, and kept his traditional masculinity stubbornly during the change, worked out, sought to be emotional support for Louise, supported her desire to work instead of denying that for her because of how it made him feel.
Instead of panicking because he had to give up some control or feeling change meant abandoning the trad formula (Modern First world society), though his panic was 100% justified. His fear or conforming to the progress of his regression created confusion & loss of what even is masculinity. The existential horror of uncertainty and loss of stake & purpose. That is what the story is about.
In this context, men do not have to suffer like Scott, but society has to play it’s part in not turning men into the bitter Scott Casey of the story and let men know as early as possible that
“Women don’t need to be dependent on you to still need you.”
"Men are not just a paycheck for women. Provision can be something as simple as a shoulder to cry on or fixing something, or repair, or childcare. Provision is not money, it is positive contribution of any kind"
“Men have a stake.”
“If men are retreating to figure things out, give them space. If they’re running away, what can we do to resuscitate their want to engage with society as we know it. What are they running away from?”
The solution is protecting men from lack of stake: society giving a fuck. So men aren’t retreating and regressing to protect themselves from society’s constant attacks.
“If society spent 40 years telling men their traditional roles were “toxic” or “obsolete,” it cannot be surprised when men stop investing in that society.”
That consideration gives agency, control to males, & puts the ball in their court-- the right way. This isn't about coddling men, this is about society having that fine line of communication that has to exist to reach men vs men just absorbing narrative after narrative after narrative after narrative from people ‘-splaining’ to men what is wrong with men.
And men’s voices get drowned out by dismissal, vile comment sections from deflectors, which only enables them further into regression and even hatred of women & society.
So o we call “trad” rigid, but new modern feminist norms are siphoning women of their very lifeforce or the will to even start a family or maintain a relationship without running away; because modern norms are also rigid & inflexible but with extra pressures no one wants to address.
Because that is also a rigidity, despite the fact that it’s slowly killing your birthrates, thus killing your civilization. Which traditional ways did not do.
And now we’re telling men them not burning themselves out like women do (not all women, but enough women to it's become headlines & personal testimony, so apparently feminism isn't treating women ideally. So what business do they have telling men how to behave? And when men listen anyway, women see them as burdens.)
Or not matching what women choose to do (sometimes at their own detriment)- is men falling behind.
You can’t have both.
You can’t complain that societal pressure on women is hurting women then in the same breath claim men are falling behind because men aren’t doing what’s burning women out.
You can’t have both.
Or the implication that women’s success & not being handicapped like in the past is somehow a cause of men’s alleged falling behind.
The gap closed is the presumption, which makes zero sense because men still do all the heavy labor jobs that keeps your country’s lights on. But is academia going to lean harder into that fact so we can finally have a nuanced grasp on the matter? Of course not.
So what this is really about is society majorly considers soft-skill economy professions & college degrees, as measures of success but ignore the harder-skill / trade categories and actual certifications women are falling behind on.
So focus on a category, point out men don't do it. Then say men are falling behind, and because we're academia: you should just take our word for it because credentials over common sense.
And if I were to be generous: closing "the gap" between men and women isn’t women exceeding men, it’s women making their own decisions as women do. As men age & mortality rates take male lives as time goes on, women become the majority by extension, so of course the numbers will show a disparity eventually. Women last longer.
And when women get burnt out, then It’s women doing too much.
Again, why are we telling men they’re falling behind regarding a formula that’s ripping women apart- as we learn in other articles and discussions.
Pick a lane, stick to a narrative. Stop making men feel like aliens in their own country because their decisions don't emulate how women live their lives. Stop trying to turn women into the men they want to date and turning men into the "sensitive", apologetic & "open" women you should be providing to the men in the first place.
I've seen this premise that women succeed or surpassing because they’re not held back anymore or some bullshit, a flattering narrative while your cities are still built by men.
And then in the next breath women are burnt out (because they can't handle the superwoman formula thrust on them) & opting out (aka running away/giving up) because too much is put on them:
They can't handle it. Because progress handed women a new a rigid norm, that's why women are getting burned out.
Which some can argue is an adult skill issue. Fragility even, and it's not women's fault they aren't trained to manage their lives better.
Why do I belabor this point? Because it’s 1000% relevant. It’s hypocrisy.
✅✅Side point:
See headlines will say "men are falling behind" but that was always the agenda, because if women don't earn or aren't 50:50 on something: then it's a systemic problem, but if males are outearned or behind, or women are ahead, then it's a good thing.
You see how this shit works? The point was always to get men out the way, not helping them step up or match women, it was getting rid of the competition and making a new era of "man" that is not male.
The "step up" gaslight is just to make men feel inept as usual, so women feel vindicated & academia/ society's mouthpieces never have to take responsibility for the role they played in destroying civilizations life support: [Males giving a shit]
The Americans are going to find out the brutal way that women being ahead means less than nothing the second men say "fuck you" & stop trying entirely. "Why aren't men approaching us?"
Women not working in the past made America not as efficient but it wasn't on life support, when let men walk away for good, opt out, regress, retreat, etc. America is beyond fucked. You could use more women in the workforce but you NEED MEN to work, there's a difference. Want vs need.
It’s always a favorable narrative that’s spared for the ladies that they are pioneers today vs men, grasping the stars while the boys are playing in dirt. Yet women are victims of pressure tomorrow, or victims of men not serving women properly in some way.
It's disgusting.
It is never on women when things in the lives of women go wrong, always someone or something else.
🚨With that attitude, you will never cultivate the best female leaders you could possibly have when they never have to take accountability, because a woman's humility is a threat to her empowerment.
And more importantly— Cultivate proper mothers that choose more responsibly who she grants access to the body, quality wife and partner. You will never crack the code or possess the best options on the planet IF NOTHING IS EVER THEIR FAULT. You have to realize this.
Men? If they don’t perform, if they don’t manage or match some standard of success academia decided is universal for everyone (rigid norm much?)- then we presume men are falling behind the new modern rigid norms that’s blanketed in a societal paradigm of female burnout and male suicide and male & female loneliness.
And now if they’re not going to college just for the sake of it, even that is falling behind, allegedly.
Never mind the fact they’re still building everything despite women being the majority of the species in the longterm, so why is the longterm minority doing all the harder labor, well paid labor, but somehow men are framed as falling behind?
College for example is red flag #1 for me with that “falling behind” narrative, we’re trying to hold men to the standard women choose to live & die by; as if college is a measure of success.
Men not going to college is not men falling behind.
Who’s still building everything in society? (I repeat) If it’s not women, why is that not women falling behind in some metric? Oh because Academia decided it wasn't important?
Why is that not a doompost that women are the empowered of your species #Empowerment #Girlpower #GirlBoss and yet men are still doing the heavier load of the work as the longterm minority? That’s not bad optics for women?
Is physical labor the only labor that exists? No, but neither is the soft-skill categories or college-- western society selectively highlights that’s female dominated that you pretend are the only measures of success so that we can say men are falling behind in.
Not impressed with your creative strategies to make your men more and more demoralized. NOT-IMPRESSED.
And even something like child raising is not so invisible itself when people being productive members is the visibility.
So women being convinced their labor is invisible- are just too damn impressionable to be convinced by someone somewhere that women have to be bitter over something this week.
Women want to exercise agency against everyone EXCEPT the agents feeding them these talking points.
Westerners are too damn negative and women are too easy lead astray: But only if they’re convinced someone’s out to get them, that's when women are easiest, false sense of security.
Women need to exercise more agency against the people preaching to them the power of agency. Paradoxically.
You can read this right now because some dudes somewhere went to work that week & kept the power grid up for another 24 hours. Or built the building you walk into without a second thought as to how that building got there, you just know the building is there when you drive or walk there. All these things in society didn't just appear lol & gender studies master degree didn't build it. Feminism didn't build it, a hashtag didn't built your starbucks; men built it.
Will these "falling behind" authors mention that? Nope, because it supports men; and women aren't the main characters of that narrative.
See, we’re too selective about this tone we have with males & the tone we spare ONLY for them, that’s my point here. Not women not being the kitchen vs why are Americans so hellbent on men mirroring everything women do, down to how men express emotions?
Soft-skill fields women fill up are not the only sections of society that civilization needs, so stop pretending what women excel at are the only positions of success that matter.
Because when society does that to mothers, I repeat that's "Invisible Labor", but the same woe is me energy isn't spared for those boys on those oil rigs or construction sites.
Stop gaslighting.
I’m not one of those people that believes that everything has to be 50:50 ratio at all times, everyday, every second, score-boarding. Because if nature worked like that we'd have two suns, and no moon.
And so by that token, women not contributing to trade fields is actually not a problem or a strike against the ladies but inversely, men not living like women professionally is not men "falling behind".
Nature is not 50:50, it counterbalances. Humans are the only idiots in the universe that enforce that dogma, and it doesn't work. It's ideal, it makes everyone feel fuzzy but it's not realistic.
Proof? Men are falling behind, what happened to equality? Or did equality just mean "Women's gain".
So the reason why "mankeeping" is nonsensical as a concept, is also why I don’t hold it against women for not carrying their weight in fields they can afford to ignore because men are carrying.
Or claim or outlets claim on women's behalf it's because the hiring process is not welcoming, it's jobs men are "taking from women", no efforts to recruit women: any and every scapegoat, complaint, thumb-sucking excuse to avoid admitting women don't want to work on a scaffold 100ft feet in the air: and that's women's choice, not the fault of "system" or men.
Despite the numbers women possess to carry their weight in said fields; despite their everyday lives depending on someone’s son doing the work. Women choose not to help, because they simply do not want to, and that's fine.
You won’t see VICE or Buzzfeed bring that shit up, I promise you that, too busy coddling women like children.
🚨If women are behind, it’s about systemic barring, a boogeyman, a ceiling.
🚨If it’s men, then it’s a performative issue or toxic masculinity or patriarchy's lingering curse, or it's voodoo or some bullshit society fabricates to avoid admitting neglecting men for women's ascension was a mistake, feminism was flawed.
It’s only a problem of personal responsibility if men are the subject of debate.
This is why the "modern woman subject": will always be incomplete and defective. Political & Professional mascot but an interpersonal, existential failure: hence burnout, hence loneliness, hence can't maintain a stable relationship because of "self" worship. Groomed to be a competitor not a companion anybody wants.
And as much as I stress how women are not held accountable: That I just mapped out feminism & progress' "modern woman" formula, is inherently flawed, women got screwed and it's not women's fault that they were convinced to OBEY a new rigid, flawed, toxic norm just to spite the patriarchal norms.
[Sidenote: This is why the quality of woman specifically has tanked in America/ & in parallel western countries. The quality of men has tanked too, but not in the same way the women did.
Otherwise It's like you want your women to maintain a false sense of security so they never improve as options, just sit back and wait for everyone else to be worthy of their time, which isn't toxic at all.
Think about it: certain sects can always have the power to control the worldview of women, but it only works if they're independent of men and dependent on the headline of the week.
*Take that with a grain of salt tho, but it's just a thought.
Because If I wanted to sabotage women or men on purpose, making them think they're always in the right even when wrong is the perfect way to mix the poison with the medicine.
I tell them on their side, the other side is their worst best interest (even though I know the unity of male & female makes women harder to control for me as the system). And so isolation is independence, loneliness is the price of being educated because men are just intimidated.
Meanwhile I sit back and watch both sides suffer & burn. Numbers & statistics just tank and tank tank. And that's "progress".
That's some supervillain shit, and it's genius sociological warfare. Again --- Take that specific tangent with a grain of salt.*]
🚨DISCLAIMER: This isn’t about women. These are examples to map out just how helpful this tone and attitude is whenever men happen to be the unlucky ones to be the topic of discussion. Cause despite how much men do, always seems it’s never enough.
TL;DR Again, If men are still the one’s building your bridges, cities, literally everything and maintaining it still. Men aren’t falling behind, they’re just not living their lives like women — - *EGAD said the crowd.
Women are simply filling the gaps men are opting out or never felt led to pursue in the first place, or a shift happened and there’s nothing wrong with that; that’s literally women complimenting what men don’t want to do and the vice versa.
Why is that considered falling behind?
Just like most women don’t want to work on oil rigs, cut off from the mainland for weeks on end. But plenty of men will do it.
Why isn’t that considered women falling behind?
Again, statistically & longterm, women should be excelling numerically — because no matter what — women outnumber men anyway as time goes on
By metrics they should always be ahead, but it doesn’t mean they’re doing better or not doing good by their own standards, nor is it a competition — so stop making it a competition then wonder why the two sides always wrestle, or maybe you don't wonder & just accept that resentment is your norm. Which is .....really unhealthy.
Which is the undertone of “falling behind”. Women being in a good place is not men losing or falling behind, so stop it already.
This competitivity fetish Americans have is why women burn themselves out recklessly trying to match a cartoonish ghost of men that never existed and men retreat & run away to fetishisms to replace the role women should have in their conscious lives because access to women is not worth it anymore or too dangerous or men are too lazy to earn it.
If women’s engagement with enrollment ceased, that would be spun as women walking away from it, a narrative of agency.
If men don’t enroll, they’re falling behind. You're not slick, Americans. You're predictable.
And thus, a lot of this has more to do with perception than reality, how these agents spin the narrative.
✅Mental health, suicide, violent crime rates & likeminded valid concerns are another matter worth talking about which is more relevant to parenting. But that isn't men falling behind because testosterone will guarantee there will be tragic extremities to the male persuasion (which explains why men keep working dangerous jobs, that's because of drive & testosterone) but the suicides & violent crime ratio won't make up more than half of your male population.
So maybe perfect your parenting, instead of using your fallacious & disingenuous "toxic masculinity" scapegoat (because women commit the same offenses men do & no Jack the Ripper clone has manifested because a boy was told "boys don't cry" aka feel emotions but don't be in your feelings).
Support & share the empowerment. If that's not too much to ask, treat men like people & not underperforming pets, America, you just might like it.✅ And one more way you can help:
is stop assaulting boys with narratives that they’re “falling behind”, show some respect and an ounce of self-awareness, humanity, or consideration. You want men to open up but we display zero sensitivity as if they have any feelings.
I’m not asking we lie to people, but haven’t you been smothering men with essentially “Do better” for damn near 30–40 years now?
And has it ever worked?
When is enough enough?
When has driving the blade deeper EVER driven any group of people to give it their all and do better for themselves and others? Would that treatment work for women?
Why is it that empowerment is preconceived to be a default reality for men when every other word out of society’s mouth to men is negative, demeaning, derailment, disrespect, victim blaming, dismissal, complete erasure of their concerns or issues.
And majority of death gaps are male dominated, the media does not care — and despite that, you somehow think “toxic masculinity” is why men commit suicide and not America’s/West world’s comfortable indifference, dehumanization, and neglect with malekind isn't the reason. Men aren't a headline UNLESS they do something wrong.
You think men don't see or notice that? I promise you they do.
Are men really born groomed to expect success? Or are you holding onto a notion that’s almost 80 years dead?
Or is the definition of success whatever category women are excelling in that decade?
Labels like “toxic masculinity” — when bad behavior is NOT gendered, nor are the socializations boys used to be conditioned with yet suicide & violence remains on both sides, almost as if instability is part of the human condition more relevant to parenting and individual social disability than masculinity boogeyman. Hm, gee golly.
Men are more emotional & open than ever, so much so that “Mankeeping” became a thing because men listened to society and opened their mouths & shared. Now the goalpost move is lack of reciprocation, but what women haven't been reciprocating for generations ? Let's ignore that part. The fact that lesbians also suffer emotional/social burnouts proves it's not a problem unique to men, as usual, women are doing too much-- but the narrative is spun to make as if men are the problem.
And you don't think that devoted campaign to attack attack attack men has less to do with male suicide & male disengagement with society than "scapegoat masculinity", oops excuse me "Toxic masculinity".
Interesting logic there, I suppose if a spouse calls their partner a failure everyday, the victim should be grateful for the attention huh?
Instead of perpetual doom-posting, instead (as the authorities, as the people with platform, including myself) provide SOLUTIONS to the matter with the address. That is- if your agenda was actually helping, which often- it’s not.
Provide men not with an ultimatum, not an attack, not an address to men and boys to remind them yet again how inept they are: Help these people as if they’re worth protecting — as human beings.
As we help women and girls; also help men and boys as if they’re worth protecting too. If you first worlders can manage to stomach such a reality.
because just the way most of us peak, it’s lack the humanity of “protect” in the tone, I don’t even have to hear your voices, I can smell it in the digital text and the people in comment sections ready to blame men shows even further how deep this evil has gotten.
Even the people trying to help, they also lack that active undertone sometimes. Sometimes you can help just by formulating the title more responsibly.
🚨There’s a difference between men failing or falling behind because they’re not living up to Men’s / their own potential by their standards, interest, patterns of proclivity and according the interests of males vs you/us— gaslighting men that they’re falling behind because they’re not living their lives, not behaving, not walking, not expressing their emotions in therapy — like women.🚨I can’t make that any clearer.
Cutting that shit out BOTH WAYS would help massively; because of a lot of what superwoman syndrome has become is just women burning themselves out living up feminisms expectations of what they thought patriarchal career culture was, aka a parody.
If you’re going to finger wag, extend a hand with it.
Fact is, men still carry society in ways A.I no time soon will be able to supplant, nor women are planning to contribute to in ways that will matter statistically.
Power lines, sewer systems, cell towers, grids, your cities, elevator techs, etc. etc. fields & careers I don’t even know about yet, all that can exist because of men.
All maintained regardless of women — BECAUSE of men. Highlight that more sometime.👍Because it’s not headcanon, it’s reality.
Encourage men with feats men do majorly as is and have been doing. Boost them up, empower. Why are you people so eager or so excited to tell boys it’s their own fault why they’re demoralized when you’re the one’s with control over their reality — your negligence is why boys often retreat to harmful narratives that warp their worldviews regarding women. They wouldn’t need to compensate in that way, if they weren’t running away from you in the first place.
Some people in the comments of certain articles surmise instead of society accommodating to women as usual; instead they claim women adapted “as we always do”, which is a cute stance but the women that did work are in history books already. Not much else to adapt to when you can already end a man’s professional life with a lie with no consequences, it’s anyone who isn’t a woman that has to adapt and duck & cover; which is why men opt out & give on dealing with women.
Identity politics rules society, and women are in the top 3 of privilege. This “we — adapt” notion is 40+ years late. Everyone adapts to hardship, women are not special in that regard, certainly not in first world society.
Despite DEI and hiring processes going out of their way to skip over more qualified members (male or female or white) for various identity boxes. (because women can get skipped over for a POC that is male for example).
A would be Firefighter has testified this on record, and he’s right:
Women have did their share of adapting then, but they’re not the women of your generation. These are silver spooned crop trying to own feats of endurance that doesn’t belong to them #1
And #2 while living in a generation of women crying “burn out” but also claiming adaptation: make that make sense.
Just being a woman doesn’t mean you have the strength of stronger women before you, it doesn’t mean you’re strong by extension of being female, it means you benefitted from the strength of stronger women who had to adapt the reality they lived so you don’t have to (as much) while living in yours.
Perform your own feats, don’t hijack theirs. I’d hold myself accountable as well for all the times I’ve said “we” when mentioning tradesmen males — being a hijack of their work on my: But the plot twist is I’ve worked trade jobs, so in that regard I get a pass because I fit the mold.
If the women claiming such things fit the mold as well too, well then they’re the real ones. But I find a lot of us are making claims online thinking being born a sex is like being part of a special club or The Avatar State where the members before us — by extension their feats are ours to claim as our own or something. Ridiculous.
Great women before me? I’d just as soon take pride in their accomplishments as my own as I would a man’s, because I am human before I am a male or female human.
That’s how I evolved beyond this “vs” bullshit: the attitude. Better for mental & social health as well.
Westerners and Americans need to diminish the doom, increase positive reinforcement of feats men still do and have been doing.
Yes, I belabored that point again because it’s true. Men have been here on business, Women were let out the cages, they caught up and men are still carrying some fields alone while women dominate others.
It’s called a counterbalance, not “competition.”
Now let me make this clear so that I’m not repeating what other articles do:
🚨NO — that’s not indicative of women falling behind or failing or getting carried. #1
🚨#2 It means women live differently from men, whilst not being that much different from men.
🚨#3 the sexes are not from different planets. Boys & girls don’t think the same way but they are not different, they compliment the other.
You can 1000% moralize & encourage engagement by just curbing the one-sided “do better” “failing” “toxic” talking points.
Women experience failure — -> it’s the system or men’s fault.
Men experience failure — -> it’s patriarchy’s fault making them into incorrect models of maleness, or it’s the internet’s fault for spreading bad messages. It’s masculinity’s fault or a bad version of masculinity’s fault, thus it’s men’s fault, patriarchy’s fault. Something vaguely male is failing men even though the decline is accelerating when they take gynocentric modernity’s advice. A flaw of men in some way, personal accountability.
You can’t have that air in your chests when your everyday privilege is because of Father Patriarchy, I’ve yet to see a Matriarchy get this far, let alone make an America.
So maybe cut the bullshit and wake up. Or keep doing what you been doing and see how low you can get those birthrates by 2030, cause if you’re going divebomb, have fun with it, right?
You should be grateful & be thanking whatever you pray to (even if your god is your next paycheck) that men do stagnate, that’s called “consistency”.
Change isn’t always a good thing, changing something that functioned, even if outdated is part of why you’re declining. You patched your software to an updated build, but it’s glitch, unreliable, and your civilization is caving in. Patriarchy didn’t do that, dismantling it is what fucked you.
Changing something outdated but functional for something inclusive, egalitarian, inflexible but more acceptable but you’re declining anyway. Maybe it wasn’t a good idea. Disagree? Then why aren’t you winning?
The outcome is the data, and even then, don’t always believe statistics, because people can lie about statistical realities to control how you see your reality which can then in prophetic fashion fulfill the statistical downfall you were shown.
I’m not saying adopt conspiracy, but just keep an open mind — both ways.
You keep seeing decline because “failing” “falling behind” “toxic masculinity”, gaslighting & disrespect is all males see. And then the alternative they hunt down is fetishism, positive reinforcement from blatant exercises of misogyny, overindulgence, regression, etc.
Men make their own damn decisions, but society has it’s role in pushing men into that destructive world through sheer neglect.
Devolving them into a shell of themselves & women are left with nothing, because men bring something better than money: “Counterbalance” “Male perspective”
Society, not patriarchy, but modern/defanged/ feminized SOCIETY aka everyone involved from media to education as it is & has been these past 30 years has more blame to shoulder than anything & anyone.
Men are not things to complain to, chastise & then they’ll wake up the next day and make life better for everyone because we finally got rid of the patriarchy; and everyone became friends & equity reigned supreme, then First world society became TYPE-III Civilization in 50 years record time because that dastardly patriarchy got out the way and a woman became president. bla bla bla —
that’s not how it works.
Treat men like people, not underperforming robots. The tone you address women with ? With care, humanity, understanding, empathy, leeway, good faith?— keep that energy for men.
And the crazy thing is, the author of the article (namesake of the title) was actually not a prick about it; I can tell just from her tone in the comments that she tried to be fair. Props to her. The issue still remains that pointing out that “problem” exists is not a solution, I’ve been guilty of that myself, it’s a horrible habit people engage in.
✅The falling behind we perceive with men & what we see women aren’t doing compared to men: Is called a counterbalance. Boys & girls think on unique spectrums, physically complimentary, but are not that different to treat as two separate factions, not even close to being that serious.
Otherwise a solution needs to be attached to the valid addresses that need change and the regular trademark western doom posts.
Stop reinforcing that men have to be women in order succeed when not only men are carrying more than their share of the weight, but women themselves are barely hanging on by the formula modernity’s feminism handed them to begin with.
Why would men in their right mind want to catch up with women when they’re “ahead” but a hair’s breadth from atrophy because most of them are proverbial walking husks.
What if i told you; That female pedophiles existed? And should be "represented" just as much as the males in society.
See the creepy part about Female pedophiles, even more so than the males... Is it they're "rare"? No, no, no. They're leagues smarter, because they take their time before their move. They invest in their.... "lover"
The REAL reason for their rarity in the media, is the worst possible reason:
They just don't get caught, meaning they get away with their abuse and live in a society that pretends they don't exist while the male pedophiles take the brunt of public scrutiny that they should experience too.
And they benefit from biological bias, so if they get caught, and they're white & attractive, they just might not even get equal amount of jailtime, if ANY, compared to a mustached male named "Dave".
Why? Why are they so good at hiding in plain sight, because they play the long game, women are romantic, they want to "know" their target first.
They want a relationship, not a fuck buddy.
The Males usually go after strangers, that puts em at more risk, hence why Chris Hansen had a career to speak of.
The females sleep with children that trust them, children they have power over: Students, their own children, niece, nephew, etc. Relationships with other adults didn't work, so now they want a dynamic where they can't be hurt, and prey on innocence because that appeals to their maternal instincts. Bizarre, i know.
That way they have the dominant position, and can control the child to be silent, with affection, not fear or intimidation, at least not most of the time.
The ones that get caught, are the ones where the truth just happened to come out from either the child or happenstance evidence. (Like a Teacher being pregnant with baby, it's not the husbands, and the Father is a 8-12 year old little boy who's main concern is playing Roblox)
4:40 To be fair "discouraging" someone from prioritizing oneself is not forcing someone to do that. Especially a stay at home person in post 2010, and NOT in a third world country.
Society's "progress" had a hand in sabotaging women on the way to this point, but that was simply the consequence of what women wanted.
Otherwise, way too many options for women to then say you can't prioritize yourself because of metaphysical ""them" / "they"/ "society" discouraging or making it difficult, when in reality you're just too busy because of the life you chose.
Imagine me blaming beauty standards for men is something done because of society, because i chose to compare myself to action stars. Is that society's fault? Or mine for doing that to myself?
The gap here is accountability vs victim narrative.
If you have kids, thats a given you'll have less priority but that doesn't mean you can't have any, otherwise it's an excuse.
Same with men blaming women's standards, you'd be surprised how flexible women are when they actually like you.
You have to find a balance yourself, if you stay at home as a wife with no kids, or have kids & you're just that coordinated, you have greater opportunity to modify having priority vs a woman in a cubicle. And even what kind of work you even choose to pursue matters, we need to think about demands of the actual career before hopping into it, how much time would you want to yourself 10 years later when you want to be with someone & slow down?
Standards & expectations aren't the devil here, they're guidelines, stop blaming them and start using them.
*These are things one needs to think about, none of this is something society owes you. But again it did have a hand in making it more difficult for people by allowing "progress" to go in this direction.*
As if anyone in 2025 expects perfection from women when what men want is an afterthought or something to be dissected as problematic to only further discourage them from even bothering to date, since their needs are irrelevant.
"Beauty standard" is code for "ideal", men will settle for anyone willing to both pay attention and perform without making their life a living hell. It's that simple.
Comparing yourself to some model on Insta is a choice that stems from pressure, but it is a choice. But don't then settle for being unkept or unattractive or bland, then wonder why no one's approaching or paying attention vs the women that do try.
*You cannot have it every single way and still come out on top. Politics lied to you, women are not the main character.*
The difference between male & female loneliness or how it's addressed is victim narrative, men are usually painted as not doing something or AFRAID of rejection and women have this overtone of something being done specifically to them that's preventing their success.
aka NOT MY FAULT syndrome. Which just robs women of agency to fix the problem.
You are not victims, your era failed you, yes; but not in the ways you think. This exhaustion was fought for, being able to feel that labor that men always felt came with the equality.
"CONSEQUENCE" is the word missing from this video, overall decent points but the delivery & overtone is too self-defeating, some of it true, yes. Majority of it is an excuse to just externalize, so you can feel you did nothing wrong.
We should take a note from Rocky's speech & stop finding someone to blame because we aren't where we want because of soft "discouragement", which is just an excuse to say one feels bad because not moving resulted in them remaining still & achieving nothing.
whats happening is the progressive world we fought for on womens behalf wasn't all sunshine and rainbows in the outcome,
what men had going on at work wasn't exactly ideal for living to the fullest for women's specific experience. That's what happened.
That's what this is really about, women not being allowed to just have it both ways as a norm package. You have to cultivate that situation, carefully & timely; it's not a birthright society owes you or us. You are not owed professional AND martial success when convenient because you might feel standards or expectations should be men's burden but not yours..
Having to bust your butt isn't fun, I 1000% back that superwoman syndrome situation, yet that came with the independent agenda. We call it superwoman but it's really just being an adult. Sacrifices have to be made to survive, and we blame having to make those exhausting sacrifices on society's rules of engagement forcing us to bend, when this is what women fought for in the first place, the opportunity to even do this much.
Post feminism-regret maybe? "What was intended vs what women got" Maybe that's worth a video for OP, if they didn't make it already.
It's not always something being done to you, i won't sit here & pretend there aren't female specific hurdles men will never know (just remember there are hurdles men deal with that women won't ever suffer either): the word is "consequence" of progress but you are not powerless in the matter either.
5:45 nah, ppl have kids regardless of funds all the time. ppl don't breed, because people don't value families because society has destroyed the value of the family for more than 20 years.
can't just undo the damage of decades of propaganda in a few years because NOW you can't ignore the birthrates anymore. Thats not how it works & thats the only reason why people talk about it. You can’t pretend it doesn’t exist anymore.
The money is a factor for the smarter people who think first but the fact is: If the sexes don't want to deal with each other in the first place, yer not getting kids.
If the people together have more desires than values or principles, more wants than reciprocation? You're not getting families even if you get kids.
If 40-60% of people are opting out of dating, mankeeping, womankeeping, all these terms just to illustrate “frustrated”, if more men are retreating to fetishes, ai, addiction, online para-social crap like OF/Vtubers/Tier 3s, peter pan syndrome- anything and everything to replace women and men. And there's more and more puff piece articles ENCOURAGING IT? Enabling exploring this crap.
You're not getting kids.
If the women are raised in feminized society that doesn't raise any men for them to choose from, and all they have are wannabe footslaves, boytoys, shrunken tinies, bottoms, and docile manchildren- a generation of weakness, self-loathing and incompetence.
you might get kids, MAYBE, but you're not getting stable families, let alone 40 yr + long marriages. It won't happen.
That time is long done, at best the flukes are the ones that do succeed. Success isn't the norm for westerners, because the norm is dysfunction, dysfunction is progressive. Destigmatization is inclusive & tolerant. Decline is the reward.
Japan has the exact same problem.
Why are any of us confused as to why birthrates decline in civilization that values dysfunction, hedonism, neutering masculinity because femininity is easier to control & manipulate, nerfing femininity by signaling to women that they have to emulate the masculine to compete with men instead of just changing how the competition works, & enabling disconnect more than pushing the family.
And you're actually surprised that your country got to this point? The real surprise is you didn't get here sooner.
This birthrate situation is not a complicated algorithm, and im so sick of the same 2-3 talking points being brought up as if that's all there is to it.
South Korea 2025 is somewhat fixing this issue by just changing the attitude of the overall culture AND providing monetary support, but it's more about the attitude of society.
And not just changing an outlook because it's a gut reaction to the numbers falling but a genuine admission that independence & Marxist abolition of the family for that ignorant sense of progression because your country THOUGHT you could afford to take traditional values for granted: was both a mistake and a lie.
to be fair, this isn't on the tool, it's on the engagers.
If someone has such weak constitution to entertain such a thing, let alone get lost in it, they're doing the dating market a favor by omitting themselves from it to go play with action figures & dolls. If one is curious, thats one thing, but to get hooked, that's a different story.
Same with fetishes & otaku culture, all this does is separate the boys from the men, and if the men are less than a handful, then there's the actual problem.
Ai actually helps occupy the non-factors, the irrelevants whose genes & habits should not be propagated, so if this in any way threatens an already falling population issue that's more fault of sociological political failures than Ai, then the issue is the number of low quality options that'd take the bait, that a society produces as the possible NORM.
That's the real issue than the Ai itself.
