Bella Poarch - Build A Bitch (Yes, he does get to choose)

Bella Poarch — Build A Bitch (Yes, he does get to choose)

https://youtu.be/UyjleBCXlbg?si=ikk1VqAlIlpPutYZ

I like this song, & the message,

This ain't Build-A-Bitch (A bitch)

You don't get to pick and choose
Different ass and bigger boobs
If my eyes are brown or blue
This ain't Build-A-Bitch (A bitch)
I'm filled with flaws and attitude
So if you need perfect, I'm not built for you (Yeah)

It's not even about perfection, it's compromise.

I get it, you can’t pick & choose, but women can pick & choose even down to someone’s height. It’s really about preference.  

Think about it, Women don’t have to have to conform to what he thinks he wants- or thinks he’ll get (& vice versa), but yeah he can pick and choose. Men have that right.

That’s the point, she doesn’t have to do anything, but men DO 100% get to pick and choose. 

Who are we to tell men what they can’t want in someone they’re going to put money, time, effort into, maybe even die for in a crisis to protect them. Who the fuck are we to tell someone what they can’t want or pick or choose in someone they’ll die to protect if it came to it?

Seriously.

Do women put the same into men? More times than not, no, especially when most women expect men to do all the initiating & paying.

Thus when men don’t approach women, women then complain. What are men allowed to choose and want then? And if you’re not putting as much on the table as him, who are we to tell any man what he can or cannot choose or pick when all you have to do is just do you to begin with?

Men constantly getting told they can’t do anything or a preference is misogyny then we’re confused when they’re opting out of a program they clearly have no agency in.

How is that right?

Ultimately It’s the-

“ You don't get to pick and choose
Different ass and bigger boobs
If my eyes are brown or blue “

- for me. 

The issue is the double standard, meanwhile, most expect men to pay for everything- but the man making the investment in the first place is constantly signaled he doesn’t get to choose what he wants from the  investment.

You can’t do that & expect men to want to engage with women when they get less and less out of it. 

We’re telling men blatantly they can’t have preferences, or their preferences are wrong if women feel bad because they’re not hot enough.  Which is not men’s problem. Period.

 Because when men don’t approach or opt out, men aren’t asking questions & complaining about where men went, it’s women. 

Men aren’t drones that you input commands into & they perform. Men do not exist for the convenience of women, and thus their desires & expectations are not within anyone’s right to tell men they can’t have, because some girls can’t make the cut.

Does that mean women have to change themselves & get ass jobs? No. It means stay in our lanes and don’t tell people they don’t get to want or choose. If you’re not attractive to fit his standards, then meet someone who will take you for you.

Just like if he’s not funny or charming enough or tall enough, guess what he shouldn’t do when rejected? Make a song whining about how women don’t get to pick and choose, because he didn’t make the cut in some women’s eyes. aka cope.

It’s not even the song’s lyrics that’s the problem, it’s the cultural attitude prevailing through the  catchy song, it’s the prevailing double standard. 

I like the message overall, men don’t get to create their own custom Barbies, i agree. 

But women missed the plot in the exact same breath, they seem to think they can tell men what not to do, what not to want and then women do what they do, & no one challenges that.  And you think Men actually want to engage with that shit.

“Build-A Bruh”

• Sure, this ain’t Build-A-Bitch or CREATE-A-Sim, you don’t get to re-cultivate a living person as you see fit, and women are not here to be molded by some boy’s/girl’s whims

HOWEVER , keep that same energy for women that have their own list of what you think you want to see out of men. Because again, men are not here to perform for women either.

 So when you have expectations, how the fuck is it right to tell someone else they can’t pick & choose when women do exactly that regarding men. 

Pure projection. That’s the entire problem here, double standard. 

“ This ain’t Build-A-Bitch (A bitch)

You don’t get to pick and choose-”

 — But I’ll choose what I want from you’

Otherwise, regarding the song itself- not bad, the beat is funky, it reminds me of Selena Gomez’ songs around the early 2010′s, i miss that era, I miss that youtube.