23:50 It aint right to stave him off for a whole year, thats just unreasonable. But thats zero excuse to cheat & Hila brings up an excellent point that after 3 pregnancies will have an immense impact on her willingness to want sex, hormones, mindset etc. And I bet you if Ethan concede that much, turned off the camera and spoke to her privately, that would've been positive turning point for them vs what he did which was deflect.
Can they not compromise on oral or something?
Then him just wanting the action without possibly meeting her half way with romancing or massages (which men don't require to get primed, but many women do) or approaching it with more respect is also applicable.
When men bring this up, my mind immediately goes to:::::
How are you approaching her for the ritual in the first place? Just like way back when.
Women don't have male's wiring entirely, they can't just see something & then *boing, they're ready to go. Their testosterone doesn't work that way, foreplay, buildup, attention.
Cause her answer (yes/no/maybe) comes AFTER how he asked in the first place.
Does she feel safe, does she want to or is the reality that she has to perform? or possibly, is her denial a reaction to his lack of effort in recent memory that she is subconsciously tracking. We need to keep that in mind. An organic escalation vs a demand of participation.
Doesn't mean neglect of his needs is okay, but a lot of this boils down to lack of consideration on both sides.
Cause Men do begin to lose that charm & enthusiasm to impress when getting complacent in marriage too, then when the willingness she gave back when he did 'the things' way back disappears, nothing regarding causality clicks in his head. it's not one way. Not all transaction either, that model hasn't been doing great.
Interdependence is underrated.
Some people just don't know how to negotiate anymore either, not a modernity bad thing but it's undeniable how much more awkward recent generations have become. For this, its namely how they're disagreeing on-air kind of gives some insight, it's unfortunate.
25:30 She’s a lil too quirky for me, but she’s right, just mind ya business & don’t look. So simple.
Her problem is just seconds before that fact drop, she claimed she gassed up some chic dripped a certain say from a distance.
So attention is good as long as it’s positive & from the right ppl.
But the negative, the consequences, is not okay. That’s not how that works, that’s that ‘entitlement to domain’ I see often from people in comment threads.
Either mind your business is the law, or feedback actually is okay.
Pick one. Society is not your private possession.
At that point, literally, just workout at home. Or fund a women’s only gym in most states. You want to have a cause? There you go. ♀ And if that’s already been in the pipeline, speed it up. And if there’s plenty already, well mass-produce.
Otherwise, you are not entitled to a public space, then dictate the rules of encounter when you’re not being threatened, or forbid any contact when YOU choose to be in a space that is by extension going to place you around other social creatures.
No one invited you, you chose to be there.
The price of dressing how you want as a right is you’re not god of everyone else’s autonomy and thus you can’t police everyone else in the same exact breath.
Self-awareness, accountability and consideration from EVERYONE, then there’s no conversation.
But she’s right, don’t look, yet she’s missing an important caveat.
You’re not entitled to a public shared space then pretend you’re the only one who deserves to be there, at that point just stay home.
As for the joke, it’s funny.
For Shane Gillis, someone I never listen to, his delivery worked for me despite the “whore” usage being too much, it was. I think just maybe how uncommon that word is used, was the point. Cause I definitely wasn’t ready for it, which is why it was funny. If he said “thot”, i would’ve cringed. But whore has a punch to it. Again, low taste, but I figure that was the point. And that face he made was hilarious.
Does Shane deserve to be canceled? No, obviously.
And keep in mind, it’s a joke. Imagine how often academia runs it’s collective mouth on men, gross misrepresentation, misinformation and they’re not held accountable for it. But they’re the experts.
(ex. Mankeeping, meanwhile when lesbians suffer the exact same issues, that isn’t mentioned in many of these articles. Zero accountability.)
Compared to that, and how common that is? I think a joke is just fine, the choice of word was just gaudy. But again, I presume the risque was part of the point.
Should tiktok women Avengers assemble to shut down this disobedient welp via cancellation for daring to defy the established rigid social norms? No, save that energy for a crisis.
But it’s humanizing to see women being so…. aggressive, patriarchal & counter-oppressive the minute they get challenged on anything.
They’re not underdogs apparently like the first wavers, because this lot know the mountains will move if they scream loud enough at the same time. They have power, they have systemic advantage, they know exactly what to do to destroy someone’s life for offending them. And have ZERO qualms making visual documentations of themselves exploiting it. Our resident victims ready to destroy.
I love that self tell, again, it’s humanizing.
If the joke didn’t work for you, then it didn’t work. Fine. Breathe in deep mother nature’s ether, and move on with father time. If the critique itself was the punch in the chest, we agree & diverge there, for all reasons provided; but if “whore” was the deal breaker, agreed, I agree it was too much. You’re okay.
TL;DR Women can dress however, its not always invitation for pursuit, true.
Just because she appeals to your mating sensibilities, is not jurisdiction to engage because YOU are ready for the ritual to begin. Truth.
But women are in a shared space, carry a sign with you or something (“Here to pump, not talk”) / (“Unavailable”)
or you could… idk, he or she approaches, she or he says no, and you both move on.
But you live in the timeline where social tension is the norm, men aren’t mind readers, everything’s a risk, talking is an act of war.
It’s safer for you as the man to treat women like they’re radioactive (regardless of “signs” & “signals” she gives or you thought she gave, just forget all of that. That time is done.)
And it’s better for women’s peace of mind not to be on guard for a pursuit every 5 seconds.
Women are independent and over it, accept it.
They’re not something to look forward to anymore, you have to be cautious now or just keep your distance, keep match making within tight-knit, very small circles.
Who you date is someone who your friend or extendeds should know, even that’s not a guarantee of safety but it’s better than hitting up random Janes.
It’s not worth it, just mind your business, this is society now. This is women now. And it’s the gym, just do what you’re there to do and keep pushing on.
If the women who want encounters, want them, let them step forward. If they don’t, too passive to step up, that’s their problem. This is the legacy their movement handed them.
Men shouldn’t be creeps in the gym, but don’t blame men for taking the hint amidst the cultural shift.
The risk is effectively killing any sense of community because people don’t have any social skills, self-awareness, control over libido and way too much self-importance, & zero accountability for how they present themselves.
“Entire social fabric of the room becomes tense and hyper-policed, draining the casual, community energy out of a public space.”
It’s unfortunate, but this is what you got. If you work out a middle ground, try, don’t give up on people or even society. But don’t force it either.
However one dresses is not incrimination because of someone else’s poor impulse control.
But looking is not a crime, and you don’t want a society where it is. But if you’re staring, you’re not being considerate.
The best part about topics like this is both sides catch the shots.
It’s best to just to mind- your- business and there is ZERO risk of being called creepy, legitimately anyway; you can still be lied on.
The compulsion is involuntary, I get it. But it’s not worth it. You choose, not your hormones.
📌There’s over a billion women on the planet, at some point you have to override the formula. Be considerate to them, exercise some self-awareness that being looked at is not inherently flattering.
And to be fair? Stop handing out your attention for absolutely nothing.
AT MINIMUM, be self-aware. That’s just basic survival instinct, man or woman.
If the joke didn’t work for you, then it didn’t work. Fine. Breathe in deep mother nature’s ether, and move on with father time. If the critique itself was the punch in the chest, we diverge there but if “whore” was the deal breaker, agreed, I agree it was too much. You’re okay.
Yes, some do want to look cute for self & optics, more women should be more honest about that, it’s okay to care about how you’re seen, it comes with the SOC-eity.
The point is simply: If there’s more self-awareness, consideration, accountability from both the seen & seers. Less actual creeping: and there shouldn’t be a conversation.
The music was surprisingly good, excellent shots & use of colors to direct the scene's tones.
But the overall focus of the film is the strongest element: avoidance, isolation, the danger's of hyper-independence and burnout. Relevant.
(This visual with a spine prop in between them, subtle)
Gotham's over-reliance on his presence specifically was an excellent point. Cause some of the decisions Gordon made had me like: "But you have guns tho."
Batman is really overqualified but he's still one guy, he can't be everywhere. The Sons of Batman (TDKR) filled the gap, but at base he doesn't have the organization of the cops.
The flaws, the mortality of Batman.
It's not even 1hr 30 minutes, well paced, solid action, solid writing. It doesn't waste your time. The cliffhanger actually pissed me off cause I wanted more. Allegedly two more parts are in the works.
WB still got it, they just need to lean into the DC Animated scene, where their strengths have always been.
goated, the manhood messaging is more nuanced here than ppl give it credit for. It's both listening, compassion, stepping up and knowing when to kick some ass when talking don't work or don't even risk your well being trying to talk with people who don't deserve grace.
Cause when shit hit the fan, it ain't the academics who tear masculinity apart in their little articles & peer studies, they're not the ones that step up when people need protecting, when things need to be built. Duncan is spitting straight facts there.
Adam is right too about compassion, they're both right. Both aspects are valid parts of the spectrum of manhood. Not a "version" of masculinity.
Along with Skeletor's archetypical hard style masculinity: radical conquest, violation, domination, insecurity with a sprinkle of no fucks given.
The works.
Duncan saying that one thing added a crucial level of nuance that most media completely miss when it comes to this topic, despite how many people that have something to say about masculinity, and it's usually just a deconstructive attack: not a solution, not an analysis, a grudge match.
Adam is the modern talking point, his father wishing he'd let Adam be himself is also a crucial element not to lean too far into the hard style of masculinity. You can overlook the reality that part of raising a boy is letting them be a child, vulnerable, silly, an individual, not a molding.
The fact that Adam's mistake was linked to his insistence on leaning too far into the brute hard style is also valid.
But Duncan is why the message works, the reminder that a coddled civilization that actually wants a future, shouldn't forget why it survived this long in the first place, the patriarchal foundation that affords these privileges/ that ALLOWS people to even have these talks.
It wasn't just fighting, it wasn't just talking. Damn sure wasn't socio-ideological intersectional politics that got humanity this far--- AND that ISN'T STATED ENOUGH, by the way.
It was talking and fighting, it was conquest, warmth and protecting. It's not this homogenous glob of toxicity we're so used to perceiving masculinity & patriarchy as.
Because the people that love to talk about it the most, almost always negative, more than likely don't know what they're talking about.
It was a Masters of The Universe film that got the closest to a balanced take. A movie about He-Man, The Incredibles is a good one too.
And even He-Man had to concede that the time for talking after a certain point was over with Skeletor.
Compassion, empathy and humanity in Adam: which is true because before he fought Trap-jaw, he tried dialogue. Before he fought Skeletor the last time, he tried dialogue.
And in-between, realistically, talking wasn't an option. He was consistent to his background as an HR agent, to his beliefs.
But the irony is: what got results, was not talking, it was kicking ass, but for the right reasons and right state of mind.
We can't all be coddled by the narrative like Deku. Skeletor straight owned his issues, and they are serious issues. There is a person in Skeletor, but he still has to hold these hands.
And what got them out of that prison was cooperation, & Adam dropping the HR schtick, and simply talking to the group from a more grounded place, not a performative one.
Because the HR soft style/modern ways can be equally performative and counter-intuitive.
The nuance is this film is pretty well baked because it's self-aware, Duncan & his arc was the key.
A dash of modern revisionism, & a dash of old school practicality. A good mix. We need more of that, badly.
What i'd add, is be careful with how far they take this project, if they decide to expand, cause the fact they have a OST is insane.
Don't know if they got a deal, or if the indie status is a gray area or what, but TOHO doesn't play with this particular namesake. So take care not to be.... Reckless. Lol.
That came to mind the minute i saw the album. So far so good i guess, the album's still here after a year. 👍Good work on the mixing btw.
Otherwise into the artistic meat of the matter--- RECKLESS, "HEART" & maybe "Convulsion" sound the most Bloodbath Godzilla-esque of the album, majority of them read like experiments, not even remotely related to the creature. But at the same time it's good they didn't put the motif in a box, what they went with adds range to the creature.
I like the nuance this movie possesess.
Ghidorah was just superior, deadass. Weren't nothing false about That King, igaf what narrative those human characters fed the audience. Invasive element being false is like saying humans own invasive imposition on wildlife as if alien makes humankind fraudulent as a presence, nonsense.
Ghidorah was a corrupt king, but he was as real as it got.
Regen, bio-electrokinetic abilities, flight, global mimicry, extraterrestrial origins, immense tri-intelligence, serious combat IQ, survived the OXYGEN destroyer. And a will so strong it returned through a cybernetic prison.
Ghidorah was named king when he is the actual god, a fallen god from the stars. And despite Gojiras given namesake which more accurately fits Ghidorah, Gojira took a rank (king) from Ghidorah thats actually lesser than a god. Ironically.
Only through Mothra' own borderline supernatural nature was he able to survive Ghidorah, & with Kong was he able to survive Ghidorah's vengeance, this movie specifically is goated for making the spiteful, colorfully characterized god King Ghidorah the ultimate beef-machine.
It's fitting that Godzilla needed help to rez after the oxygen destroyer, Mothra's help and the humans help. It raises the stakes of Ghidorah's threat level, bastard was invoking storms with just his presence. 🐲🐲🐲
